Married guys - car budgets and honesty

I met my gf 3 years ago , had a very bad name , major credit problems , my dad stole my identety and put 14 000 $ on credit card using a fake signature ( gambling ) i bought my 74 cuda back for 15 000 $ ( yes i paid my dad ) and for the years that the cuda didnt run i bought my 76 360 duster and invested over 20k in the last 6 years , i paid my cuda in interest and parts etc more than 100 k in the last 13 years if you think about it and maybe 25 for my duster , but she knows i love my cars and if a car as to go would be my duster , ill die with my cuda no mather what ... im planning to have some kids in 2 years ( 29 now ) and get married too , i would like to do some work on the cuda too because the car is not perfect but getting older i understand that a driver will never be 100% , anyways ...live youre dreams guys , she supported me and i was Lucky enough to have a gf that understood that even if i had major Financial problems , i sold the 340 of the cuda to make some money to pay debts ,,,but no way i would sell my dreams if somebody forced me too

cosgig said:

I don't personally discuss every purchase I make on stuff to the wife, and I don't have to! I buy it if I want it and if she asks I tell her! If she sees it 6 months after I buy it and asks, I tell her! That's how it works at my house! Geof

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Exactly, We don't discuss all of my purchases, but I don't hide anything. If she asks then I tell her. I have nothing to hide nor fear.

My wife & I both work, and we each have our own checking & savings, but they're all joint accounts. We're both responsible with money and she's supportive of my car hobby, and I've been willing to put restoring my '72 on the back burner for other priorities...like paying off the Hemi Challenger she helped me get through her dad, who is a car dealer. She still doesn't like the '73 parts car I've got behind the garage, but she agreed to get a big shed so we can strip it and store the good parts there. She even helps me work on the cars sometimes, to the point of getting greasy underneath my old Jeep changing a starter. Definitely a keeper.

I keep every penny I spend on my projects in a folder for my wife. She will know about every cent I spend after I'm dead because she will inevitably go through all the paperwork I keep on my cars once I'm gone. So I will, in the end, keep nothing from her and when I'm gone she will benefit immensely from all my work when she sells my cars.

Treblig

...pretty easy really. I told her "either I have a car hobby or a girlfriend. You choose." She responded; " Your cars will be cheaper for you." Jokingly a true story. Seriously, I hand her my paycheck less MY allowance. It works out pretty well. She manages all the bills, investments and so on.

in the quarter horse world, there is a range of involvement that goes from the backyard horse owner, that thinks about the "horse" once a year,, to the couple that make their living following their passion, be it professional trainers, breeders, showmen, traders, whatever..... it becomes an all consuming vocation, lifestyle, way of life. most couples at that upper level of involvement are BOTH totally into it, because of the work, time, commitment, money it takes to pursue it a the top level.

but I figured out, not just from personal experience, and seeing a large number of other "horsey" couples, over decades, that just because you both share that all consuming interest, passion, i t doesn't necessarily mean that it will work!

personalities ultimately enter into it. and all the other factors that have an effect on all out lives.....