Seriously at my wits end

Im sure I didn't over tighten it.In fact it could actually be tightened a little bit more if anyone has any torque specs they could throw at me.I tightened it just maybe a couple of ratchet turns beyond hand tight so It's too tight,but not loose either.The surfaces I always make sure they are straight ,smooth,and clean.

Trans leaks can be a PITA, get some Desenex foot spray powder. Clean the areas that are wet as best you can, and spray that powder around the pan, and around ANY area it could leak. Let it dry, then fire it up and take it for a short spin, then look for the leak.