Seriously at my wits end

The problem with the dye is, unless the fluid "piles up", you may not pick the dye up with the light. In other words, if the fluid is on a flat surface, like the transmission case above the rail......say coming from the dipstick tube or shift shaft seal, you will have a difficult time spotting it, because it is spread more thin than if it is in drips on the pan.

Have you gotten a mirror and looked all along the top of the pan rail at the dipstick tube and shift shaft seal areas? At this point, I would leave no stone unturned. It's obviously leakin somewhere.

Exactly.

I'll tell you guys what works pretty well for finding a leak.
Clean the trans up and spray it with aluminum spray paint, drive it and have a look at it again.
The fluid will leave a VERY visible track in the paint where it migrates.

Sorry, but I have to laugh a little at the "Wits end" part over a trans leak. :D