41TE minivan transmission question

Scan it and see if it is the solenoid. No sense buying an electronic item (usually non returnable item at most parts stores) if its not the issue. These transmissions did have solenoid issues though.
Also make sure the wiring connectors are clean and tight.

Yea they did.
Fortunately they are not real expensive if you hunt around a little, and they are really easy to change being on the outside of the trans.

I agree on saving yourself some headaches and getting it scanned.