Losing a Loved One

I've come to the conclusion that mourning is not only the grieving of your loved one but a metamorphosis of you yourself "passing away". You are completely changed. Your likes, activities, lifestyle, outlook, everything changes. You are no longer the person you were.That person died with your loved one. I guess that's why it takes a while to finally learn how to live with the pain. We shut ourselves off, cocooning ourselves like a butterfly. After awhile, we work our way out but as a completely different being. Never the same as before.