Losing a Loved One

dustermaniac said

I've come to the conclusion that mourning is not only the grieving of your loved one but a metamorphosis of you yourself "passing away". You are completely changed. Your likes, activities, lifestyle, outlook, everything changes. You are no longer the person you were.That person died with your loved one. I guess that's why it takes a while to finally learn how to live with the pain. We shut ourselves off, cocooning ourselves like a butterfly. After awhile, we work our way out but as a completely different being. Never the same as before.

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Very well said. When my wife passed away in 2015 it was so sudden I basically was in shock for 6 months.
She was driving my 91 mustang convertible when the anirism hit and in an instant was gone. Must have felt something was wrong as she was found pulled over on side of road.
Put the car in storage and for almost a yr. could not bring myself to look at it let alone drive it.
Then all of a sudden started coming out of my funk and realized things will never be the same but i most get on with my life and do the best i can for myself and family everyday. That is what she would have wanted and done if roles were reversed.
Now that very mustang brings a smile to my face.