Paying With PayPal And Asking For No Fee's

This whole thread started because of a member who wanted to buy an item from me. The item was listed for $45.00 plus shipping. The first thing this member said was he will go $45.00 shipped, OK I can live with that so I loose $3.50 for shipping, if I can help the guy out and get him what he is looking for and it also means a sale for me then so be it $3.50 is not going to kill me. But when I asked for him to pay without fee's nope I feel uncomfortable doing that so now if I want to sell this item to him I am going to be out $5.00. I have bent to help him out but not the other way around so no sale.
Bob