starter relay issue

I pulled apart the most recent failed relay and it looks brand new inside....no broken or scored anything...nada

That observation suggests relay might be good. First test might be hook up leads and energize relay coil from battery, see if coil pulls in contact. By inserting a thin paper strip in between stud contact, see if it is held tightly, when contacts close.

If the relay works, use meter, and post #31 along with FSM wiring diagram to find voltage drop in relay coil circuit.