Getting power to the new shop

Had the power company out today to see where I am at on getting power from the power lines to the shop I'm having built. Had the load rate at 6 kw as I'm planning on having a bit of equipment going and wanted my hot tub up there and whatnot. Well they said they could only go 3kw from the road overhead, and I would have to install a 20' pole to intercept the wire half way. Or go primary underground from the nearest transformer and have them install a transformer on my property then to my building. The only way to get a 200 amp service to it, otherwise 115 amp overhead. The difference between the two being $8000 plus the cost of trenching, pole, pad, additional permits, pissed off neighbors when I right of way through their front yards. Anyone else have to go through this for power?