Opinions wanted: 408/416 Stroker or 440?

brian6pac said
A 400 stroked with aluminum heads doesn't weigh much more than the small block.
Does anyone have the specs on this.

I'm not much of a BB proponent, but in your situation I favor the stroked 400 w/aluminum heads suggestion.
The good sense 440 build is another worthy alternative. Only you know your financial wherewithal.