Caution when dealing with member awsig

dgibby said
Is anyone really surprised IF he did this out of spite?

He’s been a member for a year and maybe is just starting to get going on his car and trust a member with thousands of posts that he actually is selling what he had advertised for sale. He gladly pays the asking price, which had been lowered many times the seller, and gets a part that is NOT what was advertised. He never post that he felt ripped off or disgruntled with the bad deal, try’s to work it out with the seller. He ends up going to PayPal for help, which is always preached on this site to do, to protect himself, which he did. Now the seller, the guy that sold him the part that wasn’t what he advertised it to be? jumps on the forum and gets a bunch of guys to blast the guy. Yeah, that really helped the seller, 6 pages of a lynch mob sticking up for the seller, (the guy selling the wrong part), saying what piece of crap the buyer is and what a scammer he must be, lets black ball the loser who expected to get what was advertised and what he paid for. What a loser for thinking someone was selling what they advertised and to actually expect to get what he paid for. What planet is the buyer from? Who in the world expects to get what they paid for?? Yep, blame the buyer, all his fault, make fun of him because its such a small amount of money to worry about. I bet most of us can remember a time when it was tough to scrape up any extra money, so 45 bucks could be a lot of cash for this guy. $45.00 bucks is life changing to some of the guys at my work, so who knows how it might be the they buyer.

I also have no doubt that if this was reversed everyone would be blaming the seller for not doing his homework. Here’s what I mean.. Years ago, when I first joined this forum, I had a set of real T/A heads. I didn’t know what they were and I posted them up for sale, asking for feedback and admitting that I didn’t know what they were or their value, make offer. Of course, my inbox blows up with shitty, low offers except ONE member tells me to do my homework before I let them go because they are T/A heads. There is no doubt in my mind, if I would have sold them cheap, and then came to this forum and blasted the buyer for ripping me off, asking him to ship them back at his expense and let me refund him, because I didn’t know what I had. ALL you would be blasting me, telling me it my fault for not knowing what I was selling or what it was worth, sticking up for the buyer..

I looked but couldn't find the part where he "try's to work it out with the seller". In this deal both parties stepped in it, and as such both sides should look for a solution where they both have a soft spot to land because that's how FABO members generally deal with each other. Post #69 among others tells me that he talked in circles about wanting to reach a reasonable compromise, but in the end just ran and hid behind Mommy Paypal's apron. Maybe Riddler has another part that he needs that Riddler could give him a smokin deal on to bring him his badly needed justice. Maybe he could have sold the incorrect brackets for a lot more than he bought them for, which was offered. Lots of ways to work this out if parties actually have an interest in working it out.

As for "6 pages of lynch mob", sorry don't see that. I see calls for compromise and distribution of responsibility, and lots of anecdotes from "the real world". Treat people the way you want to be treated. That's not complicated.

Piling on the return shipping is a dick move - even you acknowledge it was most likely out of spite. Take that crap to a different forum. Don't be a stain on FABO.

Let the buyer limit his future purchases of used parts to the retail used part industry (see my earlier post above) where his "win at all costs" attitude will dovetail nicely with their "take it or leave it (less 20%)" business philosophy. Him, them and Paypal all deserve each other, and he can look to them for support, guidance and answers for all things A Body while paying for shipping both ways.