Lost my Dad this week,

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We had his wake yesterday and funeral today. It was a horrible week for sure. At least my father did not suffer and it was quick.I put one of my dogs down a couple months back and my dog was treated more humanely than my Dad, Has anyone else sat there waiting for someone to take there last breath? Hes now in a better place re united with my mother who passed 12 years ago.
 
My condolences to you and yours. I lost dad in 2014 and Lori n I stayed with him until the end. Watched the Olympic gold medal hockey game with him. It's a tough haul. Again our condolences.
 
Sorry to hear that
A few years ago my father in law died, in his own home in hospice care
It was strange for sure, but he went from among his loved ones to join his loved ones that had gone before...not a bad way to go
 
diymirage said:
Sorry to hear that
A few years ago my father in law died, in his own home in hospice care
It was strange for sure, but he went from among his loved ones to join his loved ones that had gone before...not a bad way to go
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Good Point.....thanks for the condolences.....The last couple years of my fathers life were horrible for him and I was the guy....The only one he had for help except for his care who was a live in 24 hour care person. I did the food shopping and made sure his bills were all payed..He had worked his entire life and saved and invested so me and my brother who lives in Texas would have whatever that was left to split evenly. My bro never came to visit and I knew the only time he would come was when our father was in a casket. He comes to town and is already asking about possessions......really???....I'm one who likes to not make waves but I can see this turning into a bad situation quickly. I did everything that was needed to get done and my brother does not care about how much I did for our dad. My father did have a will and did leave us a 50 -50 split and I'm the executor which is a good thing.....I just want to have a relationship going forward with my only sibling.
 
So sorry for your loss. I, along with my brothers and sisters, were there when both parents passed. They both had the same wonderful doctor. They did not suffer. My 92 year old aunt passed recently. Hospice care is a God send.
 
Sorry for your loss, it never easy to go through that. When my mother passed 6 years ago, the entire family was there and in the last few days, we were all just spending time there waiting for her last breath.

My best advice for you now is to let the pain and stress of the experience wash away and move forward in whatever way is best for you...but keep moving forward.
 
My Dad passed away in 2015. He left me some money to do something fun with after he passed. I bought this. I thank Dad every time I drive it. But I still miss him.

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I did. Spent 2 &1/2 days and nights by his side. Was 1 year ago last week. It was rough, but I'm glad I was there. He went surrounded by all his kids, in his own bed in his own home. Just the way he told me he wanted it to end. I think about him everyday and miss the he'l outta him.

My deepest condolences to you and your's gtgto.

Be well,
Pat
 
Divenut said:
I did. Spent 2 &1/2 days and nights by his side. Was 1 year ago last week. It was rough, but I'm glad I was there. He went surrounded by all his kids, in his own bed in his own home. Just the way he told me he wanted it to end. I think about him everyday and miss the he'l outta him.

My deepest condolences to you and your's gtgto.

Be well,
Pat
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Wow....I swear once they took some breathing machine off of my dads face it was about 30 pain free minutes before he stopped breathing.....If felt like a week I cannot imagine 2 1/2 weeks....It will all work out in the end......
 
My condolences. It isnt easy losing a family member.
 
72Dart6pack said:
My Dad passed away in 2015. He left me some money to do something fun with after he passed. I bought this. I thank Dad every time I drive it. But I still miss him.

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Wow...what a great looking Dart.....I'm thinking maybe I can get my 70 340 Duster painted its original F-8 Green. I would love to have my car its original color to go along with being matching numbers. I have been saving but my father might have helped me kick start that process...a lot
 
Sat with my older brother and held his hand a few years ago for his last moments. He was unconscious from a diabetic stroke the night before. Couldn't do anything for him but it gave me peace. My condolences for your loss, and may God also grant you peace.
 
Very sorry for your loss. My wife and I were with my mother in law when she passed. It was a different experience. Unfortunately I wasn't there with my mom and dad.

Fulfill your dad's wishes and do the 50/50 split. Try hard to not let your emotions about your brother's actions affect your relationship with him. Hopefully he'll come around and understand when all is said and done we only have our family.

Prayers going up for you and your brother.
 
I'm 53 lost my Pops in 2014 he's how I got to be Mopar guy and I still shed a tear when I go to the barn.....this is the only car of mine he ever worked on and the last.

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I'm sorry for your loss. Both my parents are gone along with my inlaws. Lost my dad in 1987 and my mother in 2012 and still miss them. The hurt will go away but you'll always miss them and well you should
 
gtgto said:
Good Point.....thanks for the condolences.....The last couple years of my fathers life were horrible for him and I was the guy....The only one he had for help except for his care who was a live in 24 hour care person. I did the food shopping and made sure his bills were all payed..He had worked his entire life and saved and invested so me and my brother who lives in Texas would have whatever that was left to split evenly. My bro never came to visit and I knew the only time he would come was when our father was in a casket. He comes to town and is already asking about possessions......really???....I'm one who likes to not make waves but I can see this turning into a bad situation quickly. I did everything that was needed to get done and my brother does not care about how much I did for our dad. My father did have a will and did leave us a 50 -50 split and I'm the executor which is a good thing.....I just want to have a relationship going forward with my only sibling.
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Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 2 years ago. I still miss him today. He died just like he wish for with people around him that loved and he loved. As for my siblings dad told me that when he was gone, I would see changes come over some of them I have five brothers and sisters. He was right one brother and one sister went looking for the money. Had to explain to them that everything was mother's. Dad left everything to her to do with as she pleased. Probably don't need to be said that my sister and I have not spoken since the funeral.
Thoughts and prayers are with you brother.
 
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sorry to hear about your father passing , he is in a better place now . no pain , no suffering , no wanting , no worring . hope he's with loved ones that have passed before him . my pops is 87 , we just had his b-day last month . he still drives , but everything is getting much harder for him . but thats what sons are for to pick up the slack , right . it will be tough when he goes , but the pains , suffing , and wants n worries will be in the passed . its just my sister n myself . don't think she will handle it well at all . she was a mess when our mother passed in 91 , so i'll be there for her as well . again i'm truly sorry for your loss .
 
I'm really sorry to hear this, my condolences to you and your family.
I relate old age passing to an old television no one wants to watch anymore.
Cruel world.
 
gtgto said:
Good Point.....thanks for the condolences.....The last couple years of my fathers life were horrible for him and I was the guy....
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my wife has 2 brothers and a sister, all within 10 miles from us
when her dad died, they were all there, but me and my wife had made some choices during our life that set us apart
the biggest one was our previous house, we sold the house we had before and bought a duplex, moving her parents in on one side and us living on the other (his health was going down and we wanted them to live by us, without him feeling like he was giving up any of his autonomy)
while her siblings were all there when he died, in the years leading up to it, she had a much closer relationship with him then any of and i know she wouldnt trade that for the world

on the other hand, i live 5000 miles from my parents, my sister lives next door to them
i'll be seeing both sides of the coin sooner or later

sorry if im rambling, back on track

so, you invested more time, effort and money in your parents then your brother did and in return, got to be with him more
and now, your dads earthly possessions will be split down the middle.
trust me, you still got the better end of the deal
 
gtgto said:
We had his wake yesterday and funeral today. It was a horrible week for sure. At least my father did not suffer and it was quick.I put one of my dogs down a couple months back and my dog was treated more humanely than my Dad, Has anyone else sat there waiting for someone to take there last breath? Hes now in a better place re united with my mother who passed 12 years ago.
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Yes I was just in that same situation with my dad. Hardest thing I ever had to do. I feel for you my friend. Lived with my dad for about 40 years.
 
My sincere condolences!

It was 1998 that I too waited for the Cancer to end his suffering.

You can be sure he is now in a better place!
 
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