A230 Linkage Up or Down?

@AJ
1.) My oil is 80-90. I just checked. I'm pretty sure it's not synthetic. This is what is currently in there: Parts Master 80W-90 Gear Oil
2.) I was thinking of running a 50/50 ATF to gear oil, or pennzoil syncromesh. Or 2qts ATF to 1 qt. gear gear oil
3.) I know the neutral gate is spot on because I had it set with a drill bit at the time of installation, it couldn't have got out of sync.
4.) Car doesn't creep at all with pedal down. I'm not sure of plate departure, I'll have to check that when I get home I suppose.
4B.) All the mounts are top notch. The engine mounts are solid mounts. (This tranny is in a dodge dakota, not stock btw).
4C.) I don't have a Zbar. This is a hydraulic setup with a hydraulic throwoutbearing which I'm 100% sure it works.
4D.) What are the nylon ball bushings?

Reverse never grinds. I've never had a problem with grinding into reverse - I hear this is a common problem but I don't have it. If I'm at a stop and go to reverse, no issues. I was thinking maybe the reverse detent ball possibly fell. I've seen threads about this and they usually result in 2nd being a bear, but I can't find any pics of how to install it or check for it. I know minimal about transmissions and I don't want to have to take it out of the car right now, because I don't have enough time for a big job like that.

If I get the chance to go home this weekend I'm going to try unbolting the side cover a little bit and knocking it up a little bit(I've heard success with this) and using a different fluid. I might also try flipping the linkages just for kicks. I will post my findings this weekend if I go back. Hopefully its one of these three.