Need Advice on Machining the Intake Surface of the Head (gasket crush)

Every time I have had the intake side cut, they take off to much, they tell me they use a use the same formula they always do and it is correct but if you take .030 off the head you can't take 28.5 off the intake, it's to much.
95% is right out of all the Mopar engine building books, even the one that Mopar wrote. I seriously doubt if the number is incorrect. Also, it is recommended that only the two surfaces on the heads be machined. If you machine the intake manifold it won't be interchangeable to other engines.