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Snake

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Got a call at 4pm Thursday that my sister son jump in front of a train so bummed and depressed now.never had a close family member die what do i do to get over my loss.Hi name was Justin.20 years old.
 
Snake said:
Got a call at 4pm Thursday that my sister son jump in front of a train so bummed and depressed now.never had a close family member die what do i do to get over my loss.Hi name was Justin.20 years old.
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Sorry for your loss. There is no set time or way to grieve. Everyone is different .When my partner passed I found the support of family and friends invaluble .If you're religious you my find support that way .Also, if you are able, any support you can offer your sister would help at this time. Good luck .
 
Snake said:
Got a call at 4pm Thursday that my sister son jump in front of a train so bummed and depressed now.never had a close family member die what do i do to get over my loss.Hi name was Justin.20 years old.
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I'm terribly sorry for your family's loss.
Time, that's the only thing that's going to make the pain soften. But it never goes away.
 
Snake said:
Got a call at 4pm Thursday that my sister son jump in front of a train so bummed and depressed now.never had a close family member die what do i do to get over my loss.Hi name was Justin.20 years old.
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I am very sorry for your loss. There are no words that can ease the pain. Give your sister lots of support through this ordeal.
 
I'm a DA when it comes to grieving, so I'm no help. I was driving down the hiway, many many months after my Dad died, when it hit me. A thought just popped into my head, and I shed a couple of tears, and that was all my emotions kicked out. Like I said, I'm a DA about that stuff.
That doesn't mean I didn't care for my Daddy, I really did love him very much.
My sister kindof hated me for a while cuz I didn't bawl my eyes out like she did. She got over it, and we're friends again. People grieve in different ways. Keep your chin up brother, lay some love on Sis.
 
Nothing you can do.... Just remember you are in the storm of irrational thinking that has caused an irrational consrquence.

Become a good listener and help out your family. It will be a mess all the way around.......

Good Luck,
JW
 
So sorry for this terrible loss. There are no words...

We are praying for Justin, his Mom, you and those closest to him.

Give yourself and your sister freedom to grieve however it comes (as well as others close to Justin).

Ya'll can only take it one day at a time, and PULL TOGETHER. Too many people let the strange and unfamiliar emotions drive them apart.
 
gdrill said:
Terrible to hear. Condolences to all.
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I’m sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one goes much deeper than we realize or can express.
IMO and past experience you’re doing just what needs to be done.
Talk and share your loss with others. Understand others can’t provide anything but sympathy and a listening ear. Sometimes someone will respond with a dumb response. It’s not done intentional just a knee jerk response to death, don’t take it personal.
Revisit all the good times, experiences and stories. Yes, it will cause pain and tears, but it’s more important to get and move your emotions outward.
Many years ago a close friend experienced a similar death of his brother. It wasn’t until he understood that his brother saw no other escape (way out) from his pain/suffering that he chose to take his life that my friend was able to accept his brother’s death. Initially he and his family blamed it on themselves.
“If only, I/we had.....”
If you think back you might now see or recall a subtle call for help in hindsight. It’s critical we all become better listeners, but above all better (non-judgemental) friends to all those around us. Many have never grown up in an “open” expressive “loving” environment.
My heart and love goes out to you and your family. Although we don’t know each other we’re all part of the human family. I’ll remember you and your family in my prayers.
Sincerely,
Todd
God bless.
 
Prayers to you and all those affected. There's no way to get over such a loss. You'll grieve in your own way in your own time. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with friends and family helps too.
 
Sorry for your loss. I am not sure how to or what to say but there are places to call to help with depression and help people through some really tough times. It is sad when someone takes their life and I am sure his mother will need alot of support now.
 
I am so sorry for your loss.


It's a real shame there was nobody he could turn to for support!

Our prayers are with you!
 
Hard to make sense of it. The only thing that helps is time. You may never understand it or what type of demons he was dealing with that were so bad as to make him do what he did. You will never forget, but time is your friend.
 
Ddaddy said:
There are no words to make it better. You have to find a way to understand it and move on with your life. This thread might help a little...

Suicide? Don’t do it, seek help...please!
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thanks Ddaddy it hurts big time,i will read in the morring,i am off to bed,haven got much sleep all i can see is him running towards that dam train,cant stop crying,family means a ton to me .
 
Truly sad news. There are groups that are for those who who lost loved ones to suicide. Find one near you. It has helped me greatly
 
Very sorry to hear about this Snake... my thoughts and prayers are with you brother. Be strong and support your sister and the rest of the family
 
This is hard to deal with and I agree with @FISHYPETE and @Ddaddy , find a group and get some help bud, prayers sent for you Snake, and all the family and friends on this day sir
 
I am praying that the Lord takes this grief from you and helps you to understand that you are not responsible in any way for what happened. God bless you.
 
FISHYPETE said:
Truly sad news. There are groups that are for those who who lost loved ones to suicide. Find one near you. It has helped me greatly
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Very sorry Don, heart breaking for an uncle and Justin's loved ones. My thought is that you can be a great help to your sister by finding a support group and going there with her, the people there will have gone through with what you are dealing with now and they will help you, and your presence will help them, the sooner the better.
 
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