Now the B.S. begins

Which can be the hardest thing in the world to do.

Letting go of cherished possessions of the lost is like the final nail in letting go of the loved one.

It took me years to finally figuring this out. For some it takes longer. For others less time.

The truth is harsh. Our loved ones are beyond caring. Rather you believe in an after life or not it truly doesn't matter to them at all.

I agree. Time to let it go. Those memories associated with the car are just that: memories. Rather the car still exists or not, those memories will still be there.

The future can only be won by not living in the past. Is being consumed by this worth risking a future?

Sorry, Tom. Maybe not much help to you.

As for the situation: this is the important of a will and setting things in place *before* things like this happen.
I agree, It is very hard to let go of this car. But I may be forced to. I am going to try and contact legal aid in North Carolina on Monday and also call the NC DMV Fraud and Theft Division and ask for their advice. other than that I really do not know what to do.