You will love the bigger bars plus sway-bar combo; it will allow you to soften the shocks some, for street duty. If you have to buy bars, then bigger is even better; 1.03s are NOT too big.
Yes steel wheels weigh almost double of an aluminum wheel, and the aluminums are your best solution to overcoming road harshness. My 15x10 ET-II aluminum slots I have on record as being ~14#. I hammer over speed bumps that the 4-banger tunerboys crab-crawl over, hardly even noticing them.Try that with your 18" sweethearts with the forklift tires on 'em.