Want to pose a question
My wife knew going in that we would have separate accounts and a "middle" account.
Household bills and transfers between us go to and from "the middle", paycheck deposits and credit card bills are tied to the individual accounts.
We NEVER have "can I buy..." conversations.
we NEVER argue about money, except for "you gave me too much".
If you can afford it, buy it.
If I can afford it, I buy it.
I'll never buy a new car.
She wanted one and could afford it, so she bought one.