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moparmat2000 said
My only play money is my paypal account period. If nothing is in my paypal, i dont buy project parts. Its not linked up to savings etc. My checkbook is always open for her to look at. Its a boring read. Bills, gas, dog food at pet smart for my little idget etc. Whatevers left goes to savings.

If i wasnt a saver we wouldent have had the extra 3k to put on a newer car for her along with the trade in on a van we were upside down on. If it wasnt for me, we wouldent be living in a house that i bought and payed for in its entirety a year before we got married, or would have the money for property tax and homeowners insurance yearly as i have to escrow that myself since i dont have a mortgage. If i wasnt a saver i wouldent have a 401k that will provide for her long after i am gone. She is the beneficiary of everything. She touts to her friends how i am good at making the money work, this is one of those things.

Yep i am gathering from a lot of you that i went about this the wrong way, however every time i would mention doing this in the past we would argue about it. After 8 years of this, i got to where i would dread looking at the account every week and try to make the numbers add up.

I write checks for all the bills. She works full time as a nurse. I only ask her to buy the groceries, take care of her student loan, our sons after school care and gas in her car, plus whatever else she wants to use the money she makes for. She usually buys Christmas for the kids, i asked her what she needed this year, gave her $500 towards it.

moparmat2000 said
Yup, and i do. I cover everything but her student loan, the groceries which she agreed to buy to help out, the after school care for our son which she agreed to pay for and her fuel.
I do the rest. Homeowners ins, prop taxes, water, electric, gas, cable, phone, car payment, auto insurance, healthcare, dental, eyecare ins, money in 401k.

I gotta say this - A. it sounds like you guys may already have some $$ agreement issues and that to some degree you are holding it over her that you are better situated then she is financially. B. You talked about the new account in the past and it turned into an argument then - but you still went ahead and opened one anyway!? That my friend was a mistake.. you would have been better off bringing it up again and simply saying that you were doing it.