Another timing question

Was thinking it would make it run cooler in traffic.
Yes. & Highway cruising too.
Was thinking of hooking up the advance for a better idle.
Depends on the distributor and the engine. In general no. Use vacuum advance to compensate for the increased time for combustion with leaner, less dense mixtures in the cylinder. Strong idle calls for somewhat richer mixture than when cruising.
Timing 41 ° total timing. 496 stroker bb .is this ok . Cars runs grate no vacuum advance hooked up.
Depends on how quickly the advance comes in. Big difference if its 41* at 2800 rpm, than if its at 3800 rpm. I don't know how your set up may vary but the older Direct Connection guidelines will give you a reference point.
https://www.forabodiesonly.com/mopa...mopar_performance_instruction-png.1715175314/
Notice that's timing at 2600-2800 rpm. Max mechanical timing might be a bit higher if it does not occur until over 3000 rpm.