richer , or leaner ?

Maybe in your world it's a trick question. I never hear it. My wife and I have more sense than to try and start fights with eachother. I just do whatever the heck I please, and I told her she can leave any time she wants. And if she rather I leave, fine; I'll walk away. Women don't like to be told what to do, so I gave her a choice. Bam!, no more trouble on the home front. That was like 20 years ago, maybe 30,IDK.. We will be celebrating 42 years of marriage in less than a week. I'm looking forward to some cuddle-time.

As to richer or leaner; I'm interested to hear the answer too.
I don't know why you would suggest my wife and I try to start fights with each other but whatever...
Maybe one day we'll have as good a relationship as you do if that's what you need to think..