I want to strangle my kid. (No, not really strangle.. but a payback is in order!)

Along with a punishment just ask him straight up WTH his problem is and who does he think he is bothering his mother first thing in the morning? Teenagers have a hard time understanding how their actions and words affect others, you gotta get that drilled into his head ASAP. I would know since it was only a bit over a decade ago I was also 16 and I remember saying many jerk-like things to my mother. Now I feel pretty terrible about it and I've asked my mom to forgive me for being such a pain when I was a teenager. Problem is my dad didn't really speak up when I think he should have but by now we've all "lived and learned" in my family. And still living and learning too.