I want to strangle my kid. (No, not really strangle.. but a payback is in order!)

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RSie

RSie

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So, the weather forecast for today looked beautiful, so I was thinking 'Great! I can get out in the garage and get busy!'
I get up early, get some work done in the quiet hours before the wife and kid get up.
The 16yr old boy comes downstairs, had a little chat with him how his high school dance went the night before (which I went way out of my way to help him get ready for.. but that's a different story!).
The wife wakes up, and before she can get a sip of coffee down, the kids gets into a huge argument with her, by being a jerk. It ends with the wife saying 'great, now I'm gonna be crabby all day! Then he toodles off to work for 9 hours... thanks man!
So. I break out the honey-do list. Got a ton of stuff done.. I got her to smile after replacing the kitchen faucet, which has been on the list for awhile.. and I made it out to the garage! Yay!

Now, to figure a payback.. I can't let him get away with this no repercussions. I'm open to suggestions...
 
moparmat2000 said:
He have a phone you pay for? Take it from him for a week.
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Oof. That would be a good one.. but I really can't. He's in sports for school, and that's how the coaches (and school in general) communicate with him, as well as his work... I'd hate for him to miss out on earning money to pay for his car which I'm a co-signer on.. so that may come back on me.
 
Along with a punishment just ask him straight up WTH his problem is and who does he think he is bothering his mother first thing in the morning? Teenagers have a hard time understanding how their actions and words affect others, you gotta get that drilled into his head ASAP. I would know since it was only a bit over a decade ago I was also 16 and I remember saying many jerk-like things to my mother. Now I feel pretty terrible about it and I've asked my mom to forgive me for being such a pain when I was a teenager. Problem is my dad didn't really speak up when I think he should have but by now we've all "lived and learned" in my family. And still living and learning too.
 
He doesn’t owe you, he owes the wife. Next Saturday when the wife wakes up, he has the coffee in the cup, and breakfast is on the table. And I mean the wife’s favorite. And do it with a smile. A single rose would be a nice touch, he’s got a job and can afford it.
 
RSie said:
Oof. That would be a good one.. but I really can't. He's in sports for school, and that's how the coaches (and school in general) communicate with him, as well as his work... I'd hate for him to miss out on earning money to pay for his car which I'm a co-signer on.. so that may come back on me.
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Keep the phone on you and if he gets an important call just relay it to him. Or get him a boring old-*** flip-phone to use in the meantime.
 
Backally said:
He doesn’t owe you, he owes the wife. Next Saturday when the wife wakes up, he has the coffee in the cup, and breakfast is on the table. And I mean the wife’s favorite. And do it with a smile. A single rose would be a nice touch, he’s got a job and can afford it.
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YES 100%, HE needs to make up to his mother not you!
 
Backally said:
He doesn’t owe you, he owes the wife. Next Saturday when the wife wakes up, he has the coffee in the cup, and breakfast is on the table. And I mean the wife’s favorite. And do it with a smile. A single rose would be a nice touch, he’s got a job and can afford it.
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I like this one!
 
MopaR&D said:
Along with a punishment just ask him straight up WTH his problem is and who does he think he is bothering his mother first thing in the morning? Teenagers have a hard time understanding how their actions and words affect others, you gotta get that drilled into his head ASAP. I would know since it was only a bit over a decade ago I was also 16 and I remember saying many jerk-like things to my mother. Now I feel pretty terrible about it and I've asked my mom to forgive me for being such a pain when I was a teenager. Problem is my dad didn't really speak up when I think he should have but by now we've all "lived and learned" in my family. And still living and learning too.
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We've had this conversation before, many times. I know after he comes home from work, the first thing he'll do is apologize.
 
Guys, this post was made in fun.. my life isn't being destroyed here. The boy in question was diagnosed young with ADHD, and ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) which means he'll argue with you whatever you say when he loses control. He's come a LONG way with controlling himself and learning to concentrate.. so much so he's been off any meds for the last 6 months or so.. and yes, he did need those. He's really a good kid at heart.. the first to stick up for a kid being bullied or anything like that. I know when he comes home the first thing he'll do is apologize. It's all good :) Still, I never let him get away for stuff like this.
 
RSie said:
Guys, this post was made in fun.. my life isn't being destroyed here. The boy in question was diagnosed young with ADHD, and ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) which means he'll argue with you whatever you say when he loses control. He's come a LONG way with controlling himself and learning to concentrate.. so much so he's been off any meds for the last 6 months or so.. and yes, he did need those. He's really a good kid at heart.. the first to stick up for a kid being bullied or anything like that. I know when he comes home the first thing he'll do is apologize. It's all good :) Still, I never let him get away for stuff like this.
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Hmm sounds a lot like me, I don't think there was as much focus on those issues when I was a kid though and I was "borderline" in most cases. Went to a doc as a teenager for ADHD and he said I might have it but not bad enough to need any special "attention" like meds or therapy; I think my parents just did a good job teaching me how to manage it as a child. Man I got into some nasty arguments when I knew I was wrong LOL. Still have issues sitting still for long periods of time too, like over one hour and I'm bouncing around in my chair praying for my graduate college class to be over.
 
MopaR&D said:
Hmm sounds a lot like me, I don't think there was as much focus on those issues when I was a kid though and I was "borderline" in most cases. Went to a doc as a teenager for ADHD and he said I might have it but not bad enough to need any special "attention" like meds or therapy; I think my parents just did a good job teaching me how to manage it as a child. Man I got into some nasty arguments when I knew I was wrong LOL. Still have issues sitting still for long periods of time too, like over one hour and I'm bouncing around in my chair praying for my graduate college class to be over.
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Back when I was a kid, he would have been called a 'hard headed kid that needs a kick in the ***!'. His father is the same way (I'm his stepfather.. been with this boy since he was 6 months old though). I fought tooth and nail to keep him off meds.. tons of reading, working with him, and changing how we react with him from advice in counseling. Homeopathic remedies. We finally did put him on meds, a low dose. And no, it did not turn him into a zombie... just took a little of the edge off. Enrolling him in hockey when he was 6 was one of the best things we ever did.. he took to it like a fish to water, let him bleed off that energy.

All that said, sometimes he did just need a swift kick in the ***. Not sure if I want to do that now, as he outweighs me by about 50 pounds :)
 
RSie said:
So, the weather forecast for today looked beautiful, so I was thinking 'Great! I can get out in the garage and get busy!'
I get up early, get some work done in the quiet hours before the wife and kid get up.
The 16yr old boy comes downstairs, had a little chat with him how his high school dance went the night before (which I went way out of my way to help him get ready for.. but that's a different story!).
The wife wakes up, and before she can get a sip of coffee down, the kids gets into a huge argument with her, by being a jerk. It ends with the wife saying 'great, now I'm gonna be crabby all day! Then he toodles off to work for 9 hours... thanks man!
So. I break out the honey-do list. Got a ton of stuff done.. I got her to smile after replacing the kitchen faucet, which has been on the list for awhile.. and I made it out to the garage! Yay!

Now, to figure a payback.. I can't let him get away with this no repercussions. I'm open to suggestions...
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Have the wife get up before he does next weekend, then blast him awake with an air horn...

Then tell him, "Now you know what it's like to wake up in a bad mood...."

(Make sure the wife is awake and aware of what you are going to do so you don't piss her off too by waking her up when you blast him with the air horn...)
 
RSie said:
Back when I was a kid, he would have been called a 'hard headed kid that needs a kick in the ***!'. His father is the same way (I'm his stepfather.. been with this boy since he was 6 months old though). I fought tooth and nail to keep him off meds.. tons of reading, working with him, and changing how we react with him from advice in counseling. Homeopathic remedies. We finally did put him on meds, a low dose. And no, it did not turn him into a zombie... just took a little of the edge off. Enrolling him in hockey when he was 6 was one of the best things we ever did.. he took to it like a fish to water, let him bleed off that energy.

All that said, sometimes he did just need a swift kick in the ***. Not sure if I want to do that now, as he outweighs me by about 50 pounds :)
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LOL oh man that sounds too familiar, my dad had sort-of the same kind of attitude until I finally gave in and started anxiety meds when I was 20 in college because I literally could not function anymore. Kept telling myself "it's all in my head" and then within a day of starting sertraline I had a revelation... "THIS is what it feels like to be "normal"!!! I still hate being dependent on meds though and hope someday I can drop them. Serious anxiety runs in my mom's family and I definitely got it bad. Heck my grandfather had it terrible and in his time it wasn't a "real thing" so he turned to drinking booze and smoking cigarettes, a LOT.

That's commendable you took the hard way and helped him by other means, a lot of parents would be too lazy and just get him on meds right off the bat and send him away for counseling.
 
Why don't you adults grow up? First off this is a FOR A BODYS ONLY forums. Not a how to fix my stupid parenting. Bottom line ADHD is a fake diagnostic for a stupid parent, not the kid. There was none of this stupid **** when we were young. It's only a excuse to let a kid get away with ****. If they have school functions you can receive the school messages and relay them. Thought you said he had a job, let him pay for his own phone. The parents have ADHD so start taking your meds.
 
RSie said:
So, the weather forecast for today looked beautiful, so I was thinking 'Great! I can get out in the garage and get busy!'
I get up early, get some work done in the quiet hours before the wife and kid get up.
The 16yr old boy comes downstairs, had a little chat with him how his high school dance went the night before (which I went way out of my way to help him get ready for.. but that's a different story!).
The wife wakes up, and before she can get a sip of coffee down, the kids gets into a huge argument with her, by being a jerk. It ends with the wife saying 'great, now I'm gonna be crabby all day! Then he toodles off to work for 9 hours... thanks man!
So. I break out the honey-do list. Got a ton of stuff done.. I got her to smile after replacing the kitchen faucet, which has been on the list for awhile.. and I made it out to the garage! Yay!

Now, to figure a payback.. I can't let him get away with this no repercussions. I'm open to suggestions...
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Show his prom date his baby videos or pictures, the best ones of course!
 
Donnie514 said:
Why don't you adults grow up?
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Because it's more fun to torment our kids....
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Donnie514 said:
Why don't you adults grow up? First off this is a FOR A BODYS ONLY forums. Not a how to fix my stupid parenting. Bottom line ADHD is a fake diagnostic for a stupid parent, not the kid. There was none of this stupid **** when we were young. It's only a excuse to let a kid get away with ****. If they have school functions you can receive the school messages and relay them. Thought you said he had a job, let him pay for his own phone. The parents have ADHD so start taking your meds.
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Well, aren't you just the life of the party. If you missed it, the point was I wanted to work on my Mopar today. Sorry if I ruined your life with my post. If it bothered you so much, why bother replying? That took another 20 seconds out of your life to spew your hate.. did it make you happy?
 
MopaR&D said:
LOL oh man that sounds too familiar, my dad had sort-of the same kind of attitude until I finally gave in and started anxiety meds when I was 20 in college because I literally could not function anymore. Kept telling myself "it's all in my head" and then within a day of starting sertraline I had a revelation... "THIS is what it feels like to be "normal"!!! I still hate being dependent on meds though and hope someday I can drop them. Serious anxiety runs in my mom's family and I definitely got it bad. Heck my grandfather had it terrible and in his time it wasn't a "real thing" so he turned to drinking booze and smoking cigarettes, a LOT.

That's commendable you took the hard way and helped him by other means, a lot of parents would be too lazy and just get him on meds right off the bat and send him away for counseling.
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If meds is what you need, don't feel ashamed about it.
I had a serous social phobia problem, starting in my early 20's.. and though she doesn't know it, my wife helped me out in that in her way. If I had talked to someone about it, my life would be much different.. maybe better, maybe worse... all I know is I went through a lot of torment, and missed out on a lot of my families happenings during that time... and I knew it at the time, but couldn't deal with it. Meds may have helped me.
Work on yourself as much as you can. If you need help, reach out, as hard as that may be.
Hang in there!
 
I dont get mad,i get even. By screwing with them a little bit.

Buddy’s son looks up to me,comes and hangs out while i work on cars, i let him bring his vehicle in and work on it.
Long story short, he gets into spats with mom and dad and doesent help out around the house. So we had a good chat.
Something along the line of knock that **** off,you owe them, not the other way around.
If you keep it up, you will some day regret it.
 
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