I want to strangle my kid. (No, not really strangle.. but a payback is in order!)

Hmm sounds a lot like me, I don't think there was as much focus on those issues when I was a kid though and I was "borderline" in most cases. Went to a doc as a teenager for ADHD and he said I might have it but not bad enough to need any special "attention" like meds or therapy; I think my parents just did a good job teaching me how to manage it as a child. Man I got into some nasty arguments when I knew I was wrong LOL. Still have issues sitting still for long periods of time too, like over one hour and I'm bouncing around in my chair praying for my graduate college class to be over.
Back when I was a kid, he would have been called a 'hard headed kid that needs a kick in the ***!'. His father is the same way (I'm his stepfather.. been with this boy since he was 6 months old though). I fought tooth and nail to keep him off meds.. tons of reading, working with him, and changing how we react with him from advice in counseling. Homeopathic remedies. We finally did put him on meds, a low dose. And no, it did not turn him into a zombie... just took a little of the edge off. Enrolling him in hockey when he was 6 was one of the best things we ever did.. he took to it like a fish to water, let him bleed off that energy.

All that said, sometimes he did just need a swift kick in the ***. Not sure if I want to do that now, as he outweighs me by about 50 pounds :)