I want to strangle my kid. (No, not really strangle.. but a payback is in order!)

Looks like you have a pretty good spectrum of options, (hopefully none of them including cement). Raised 3 boys, all of them needed different things at different times. Mostly just a rudder and some perimeters, and to know the rents cared. This is kinda a tricky transition discovering freedoms without getting into trouble, but it sounds like you are doing fine.