Ultimate home defence pistol?

Friend of mine had a Taurus Judge, I fired it a couple times and was very disappointed after having practiced with my grandpa's .44 Magnum Super Blackhawk Ruger since childhood. Feels like a toy replica instead of a real firearm, like was mentioned the trigger pull and break suck and the cylinder ratcheting mechanism felt loose and light, in a bad way.

My dad wanted to buy a handgun a couple years ago, I did a lot of research and narrowed it down to a CZ75 or Glock. We both picked up a Glock in the store, held it in our hands for a few minutes... NAHHH way too light and top-heavy, we're used to shooting heavy full-frame stuff. My dad had always wanted a Beretta so we tried out a 92FS, fantastic firearm! After he bought it we took it to the range, I tell you I can do 6" groups at 50 yards at a pretty high rate of fire with that thing; it's so easy to shoot with the 9mm combined with the heavy-er full-frame design. I got used to firing my grandpa's Browning Hi-Power in 9mm and the Beretta wasn't much different. I tried a CZ75 in .40 S&W and the recoil was too much, I just couldn't keep the barrel rise under control and follow-up shots were slow. If I want power I'll use the .44 Magnum lol.
My wife's primary is a full size 1911 in 9mm. It is stupid fun to shoot.