Life after divorce !

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Welcome back. I’ve also been through divorce. I never thought I’d love again, but a really good woman came along and now is my partner and best friend in life. Kim
 
bro there's life after divorce, trust me, and she younger, better lookin and sucks you up every morning noon n nite , trust me i know!!! Go get it man!
 
Not divorced or married but ive had my share of women issues. One thing my pops told me at a young age that always stuck with me is, "if that dog wants to run away you let it. Don't you go running down the street yelling and chasing after it. Let it run. We can get one that wants to stay."

Theres someone out there right now who is looking for you and wants to stay. You just got to find them.
 
For me the part that is starting to help, is realizing that I like myself !
I am not who she said I was .
I am who God says I am.
Life is what you make it!
She can keep her misery!
I will keep my joy !
Most people who know me like me and want to be my friend.
The ones that don't are fine by me!
The wholeness does not come from others.
Thanks again for all the kind words and support !
 
Welcome back. Went thru a divorce with my first wife in 1988 after 4 yrs. Was a tough time for awhile but looking back what a blessing it turned out to be. Met the woman of my dreams and we were together for 26 yrs. until she unfortunately passed away in 2015.
Life is to short to do anything but go day to day & try and make each day a great day. Good things will follow:thumbsup:
 
I have been divorced for 6 years now, and was married for 25. After she ripped my heart out, it took me 2 years to figure out who i was and what i wanted out of life. In those 2 years, i cleaned house, got rid of all the toxic people out of my life, family included and started to live my life for me. I bought my duster at the same time i applied for a mortgage, and spent 4 years rebuilding my dream car. I rescued my pooch from the pound, and started getting tattoos. At 56 i am learning to play bass guitar, i have a huge model railroad in my basement i am working on, and 6 snakes and a bearded dragon lizard which are all rescues.

My higher power has given me a new lease on life, i get to be who i want to be and i don't need anyones approval or permission to be me. I am 25 years sober as well, that is a gift from God i will never take for granted. Some see divorce as the end, i see it as the beginning. I wish you all the best Jimmer. hope you make a great life for yourself.
 
Thank you for all who gave shared their stories and offered support !
God Bless all of you !
Jim
 
My friend just started his divorce. He has been worrying about it for a long time, totally unhappy. With two teenagers he was wondering if he should suffer through until the kids were gone or go for it. He couldn’t stand it any more and filed the papers. A weight has lifted and he is moving forward. No sense being miserable.... life is too short
 
I've been tested, it was hard. But I came out so much better. I couldn't have asked for a better life now. My wife now loves me for who I am, not who she can change me into and we work together as a team. All the while she is happy that I'm happy with my Mopar diversions.
 
Most important thing in my mind is to look forward no matter how bleak it looks and put the past behind you a little at a time. You'll find you will look at the past for just what it is. I ended up with the clothes on my back and in my old Army Duffle Bag. I challenged myself to do better and after 5 years of single life I was reintroduced to someone who ended up being the Love of my Life. 37 years later I'm a Happy Man. Children should still be a joint venture worked out for their happiness no matter how much you hate your ex-spouse.
 
Glad to see you're back and OK. My first wife left, because I was not good enough. Unfortunately, I had 3 kids. I was numb for about a year, and another year to figure out that not all women were like her. Turns out it was the best thing that ever happened to me, but it messed up the kids. Went to the drags, cowboy action shooting, fishing , hunting, every summer in South Dakota with the kids and Dad. No filter and got to be totally myself. I even swore off women, as not worth it. Then I kept a pet rabbit for a friends' friend. A year later he told me they were not involved, and she later invited me to a party. We have been inseparable since then and now it's 23 years later. See post #26. She is the Church lady, but is up to try most anything and is OK if we have different interests as long as they don't interfere with us. She is willing to fight for me and watch out for me. I have no Idea why she loves me, but I am the luckiest guy in the world. My advise is to not confuse sex with love, and the only thing that matters is "is she nice". If someone is not nice, nothing is worth spending your life with them. All the Best.
 
Divorced twice here. I finally figured out why divorce is so damn expensive.



BECAUSE IT"S WORTH EVERY PENNY!
 
jimmer said:
I still have my house ,my cars , my guitars, and my bike !
Now I'm getting my life back !
Emptying out the garbage !
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That's all a win win win that you kept your stuff. I went thru that stupid **** years ago. Kept my house, my truck, etc. I decided I needed a big shop in MY back yard when it was over. Ex. hated me cutting down a big assed mulberry tree to do it. Oh well, it was now MY property to do that with LoL. Bought me a nice new special order Mustang GT in 2007 as a divorce gift to me too, and a new little shitbox for going back n forth to work . I split the mulberry wood, dried it out, and used it in my backyard fire pit. Bought a 67 barracuda. That was the need for the shop. Now I also got a 69 notch, married to number 2, and got myself a 6 year old son who loves mopars who's claimed the 69, and helping rebuild it with me to stake his claim on it. No kids with ex thank God, that would have been miserable.

Point to all this is, your gonna get your life back a little at a time. Eventually that **** will be a faded memory of a bad time in your life. Your rid of the *****, ball n chain, spawn of hell whatever you choose to call her. Ya do know most women are nuttier than a bunch of shithouse rats. The key is finding the one who isnt. That's like finding a needle in a haystack. Take your time, work on your cars, bike, or whatever other projects and hobbies you like. Find yourself again. Be happy. Life is way to short to be misersble.
 
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