Need some help, opinions.

Jeff, I can't imagine what you are going through. I'm not great at this type of advice. Please know that a lot of us are thinking of you and are behind you in whatever decisions you end up making. Keep trying to get through to her, but realize it's hard to help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. We all have our breaking point, so don't come down on yourself too hard. I wish I was more help...