Hooked pulling front wheels then spun

Yea, You don't get it. If the forks are compressing more and more you have to soften up the rebound, if your washing out in the corners you need to soften up the rebound because the tire is not hitting the ground fast enough to get traction. The compression is just that you don't want it bouncing the bike up in the air just the tire. If it throws the bike up than the fastest rebound wont get the tire back on the ground.

And it's compression and rebound, dampening is related to both.