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Axles on jack stands. I can't pull the axle out , it just moves that much when I pull it back and forth.

You need to do it like I described in the FSM. You must get all the play over to the passenger's side, then adjust it. Where you have to be careful is, when you go to push the passenger's side axle in to bottom it and pull it back out to get your measurement. If you push it in too far, you have to start all over again on the driver's side. In fact, I recommend doing that a couple of times so you can get the feel of it and then you can feel when you move only the passenger's side axle better.