curious about valve lash setting/check

I've read the OP's question numerous times and I cannot grasp what he's asking.
sorry Rusty, probably put too much info, but trying to get enough to explain. just wondering if there is a check AFTER setting the load. I could still rock the arm into the lifter with ease (using the hex key), and had about a quarter inch between the valve stem and rocker arm. does that make sense, I hope?