Both.my wife and I have been married going on 11 years now and make no mistake we had battle Royals that the UFC has nothing on not physical I say but very intense and things have gotten broke. But I have found that most women are driven by emotion and can be hurt very easily, men are more prideful in their stance. There is nothing wrong with either side it's just worth remembering when things get heated. you want to be right or do you want to be happy !:BangHead: