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You have told him several times his company is not welcome, he keeps coming back & he creeps you out.

He fits the definition of creep.

Anyone asked to leave - should leave.

If he shows up again, ask him to leave.

If he does not, get your phone out & call the police.

Tell them there is a man on my property & I have asked him to leave but he will not.

I bet he leaves while you have them on the phone.

The police can come take a report & more than likely they will go have a talk with him about proper etiquette & what to do when asked to leave private property.
 
I must give off a "stay the F away" vibe. I don't have any trouble with people coming around. They all seem to realize that I am not their friend and never will be.
I find a lot of comfort in that-------------------------
 
There is a middle-schooler in my "neighborhood" (he lives 6 blocks away!) that has some form of mental disability. He learned last summer that me and my neighbor like to be out working on our cars. It got to the point where I got bicycle noise PTSD, everytime I heard a bike I would run inside whether it was him or not! All he would do is ask "what's that" and "why" and he wanted to start wrenching and wanted to touch everything. I started working with doors closed and found a way to park my cars in the driveway where you couldn't see if I was in the garage or not. Eventually he stopped looking for me. I'm not a very confrontational person, so I can understand if you didn't want to be blunt with him. You might have to Isolate yourself for a while. Stay on your toes!
 
Two options come to mind:
1.)"Hi, how are you? I was just on my way out to my stress management meeting... no, we can't go into the yard anymore, there's a family of rabid raccoons living under the cars and I can't afford to have them removed until after I've finished my leprosy treatments... how 'bout a hug?"
2.)"Hi, what do you need? I don't have a lot of time right now. This is my ME time and I have a lot of things I want to get done." -offers to help- "I appreciate the offer, but I have my own way of doing things and can't afford the distractions. Maybe some other time."
If neither works, go to post #51. You tried to be nice.
 
Lol

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Bodyperson said:
I think you are doing the right thing. Keep that up. Tough situation. I hate alienating people but sometimes you have to. It usually aint pretty and I always regret it.
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I like everything you wrote except the regret. I have none in regards to this topic. Cling-ons and it's not for me. Sometimes in life there are people you meet and interact with that need to be strangers you use to know.... That was told to me by a very wise man. Age makes a difference and the older you get the less tolerant about stuff like this.

JW
 
Damn, he sounds SO much like one of my neighbors. He has no social skills or common sense of things like invading someone's space and time. I nicknamed him Milfoil, because he is an invasive species, like milfoil is.

He NEVER goes away on his own when he drops by. I ALWAYS have to eventually give him the boot. He ends every sentence with "and" or "but" and then leads it right into another sentence, never giving me the opportunity to chime in to say a word or to let him know that I don't have time to talk. ARGH!!! I get a little angry just tying this!
He will talk about the stooopidest stuff endlessly and it drives me nuts. I really feel for ya. I have told other neighbors that if you see a for sale sign stabbed into the ground in my front yard, it's because of THAT guy! I have been very very direct with him in telling him that I don't have time for drop-bys and social stuff while I am working. It has helped some but he will never really "Get it"...
I don't want to start a war with any neighbors so I keep it civil and bite my tongue. A lot.
My condolences to you!
 
Tell him he has to leave cause you have to clean your .357 and last time it went off accidentally and you don't want anyone getting hurt.

But seriously, restraining order time. You've already told him not to drop by and not to bring friends, and he does anyway. He's either stocking you or casing the joint.
 
:bs_flag::drama: He's a hugger, next time he leans in, a swift knee to the sack should do the trick.
 
fishmens67 said:
:bs_flag::drama: He's a hugger, next time he leans in, a swift knee to the sack should do the trick.
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Wouldn't that be an assault charge on me??

I can say I have never thought of assaulting a man like that. That would just piss them off and prolly kick my ***.
 
Rainy Day Auto said:
Wouldn't that be an assault charge on me??

I can say I have never thought of assaulting a man like that. That would just piss them off and prolly kick my ***.
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Yes, it would be assault. Use words, not physical actions.
 
This is all good perspective you all are bringing and some replies are making me brave.

The more I think about it, the more i think i am being too sentimental from the past. I met him at a car show back in the mid to late 2000s. He didn't originally focus in on me until he came to know I was in auto school at the time. He thought it was really unusual because it was. He then turned his focus on being helpful, and he was. He gave me a set of rally wheels for my first dart and was the first to show me how to break a tire bead and change a tire on a tire machine. In those days he always treated me like a kid because in those days I was still really kid like, really late and mainly because my size. In those days everything was ok.

But now things are different, I'm not that plain "kid" anymore with all the time in the world. I have a very demanding job and things going on. I'm in my early 30s now, so I don't even think like I did then and I'm really feeling like I outgrew him.

I really have to make a decision soon because today I got home from work and there was a note on the door that he had been by. I looked at security camera footage and he was here with an unknown guy who looks like a teen and there was a female in the car whom I also don't know.
 
Self defense.

If you feel physically threatened, use force.

You are allowed to defend yourself, if you feel threatened it is well within the law.

When he is thus distracted, draw your weapon & have it ready, just in case.

I have only had to do that once (so far) I had the State Troopers on the phone within seconds.

They came out & they had some very stern words with him.

They told me 'Well done.' & away he went.
 
'No Trespassing' signs are another good idea.

One way or the other, let him know that he is no longer welcome.

If he shows up after that, call the police.
 
You have his number? Call him. Make it very clear he best not bring any friends to visit. And under no circumstance he drop by without calling first.
If he does call, use excuses like firearm training or target practice.
 
My wife, whom is very good at stuff like this, thinks you need to have someone with you when you talk to him. And she says talk with him soon.
 
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