Nervous...scared...anxious...

Thanks for keeping us up to date on all of the stressors and your experience with your pain problems and how you have been treated and how you are dealing with it.
I am not nearly as bad off as you are, but I have degenerative disc disease, and it's a challenge to keep mobile and working.
I take it one day at a time, and I go to a good chiropractor once a month and he gives me a ''tune up'' to keep me going.
He never has cracked my back, he just manipulates the muscles in my back and my legs, and it's working out for me in that way.
His approach is that I don't need an adjustment which is ''cracking'' and that I need regular manipulation.
I've been seeing him for 4 years now, and he has given me a lot of pain relief.

Keep up the faith and promise of a life without much meds and suffering.

Also, I hope your wife has a full recovery as well.