I need help in the worst way!

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I just read this. I'm so sorry for your loss and how you experienced this.
When you are ready, you may want to consider seeing a therapist - someone trained to treat PTSD and associated grief.
 
being around harleys and motorcycle clubs, i can understand what your going through. seems we went to more memorials then partys. just lost a great guy over the weekend. he was in an accident and trying to re-learn basic things like writing and talking over the last 2 years, then they find cancer in him and in 2 weeks hes gone. i believe when its time, nothing will stop that. remember the good things and keep busy till time heals you
 
The funeral is tonight. I'm not looking forward to it at all...unless it's open casket. Going to be a rough one.
 
Prayers sent that the service for your friend brings you peace. I believe it will.
 
I don't have much to say bro just that

he had a friend there when he left us.

not everyone is so lucky. you were there for him.
 
No man, the police had Ivy Point closed way back at Eastgate Blvd and they had Clough blocked pretty well. I couldn't see anything.
One of my friends lives close to there, said he started to walk over, but the police were keeping people away. He's a minister, not sure what he would have done, but Bill would have made himself useful. He's the one who told me about the accident.
Again, sorry for what happened.
You're right, he went out doing something hr enjoyed,
 
Saying "Im sorry" Just doesnt seem to help anyone. I send you and others affected prayers and hope for the best. have that cookout anyway and do it for him
 
The lay out was a good time. First time in my life that I can honestly say I enjoyed a lay out. I laughed more then I cried and new Tyler would have wanted it that way. A lot of people there were having a tough time with it but all of Tyler's closest friends were genuinely enjoying their time together. They had a open casket which helped me see him in a better way.

My friends and his family were the last to leave. Tyler was a true gear head and always loved a good burnout so when the cars emptied out of the parking lot we made sure to fill it with plenty of smoke.

I am sure I am just having a great night and there will be many more bad ones to come but I know Tyler was there with us tonight looking at all the old pictures having a good laugh.
 
Thoughts and prayers to you and his family. Like others have said here, seek out your pastor, and don't let this stop you from living on. It takes as long as it takes to get past an experience like this.

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Im glad to hear there were laughs, smiles, memories AND burnouts! Every little bit of peace and happiness helps. God bless
 
The funeral was this morning. It really helped out a lot. We got together and decided to buy his jeep from his parents...not really sure of it will just be given to us. Plan on making it into a trail rig. He was a Chevy lover so I might cheat on mopar a bit when I build his small block but he wanted a 350 in it. I really thank everyone on this forum and if anybody else has to go through something like this I'll be the first to help.

Still struggling with the images but seeing him in his casket helped a lot.
 
Wow Doogie, sorry to read this. Thoughts and prayers all around!

I have seen more than my share of these types of things in my lifetime and I will suggest you get some grief counseling. It will help. Time will certainly help in this matter too.

Unfortunately it will be with you forever, although our mind has a wonderful way of compartmentalizing it to help relieve the stress of it. The key is to face it, talk it out and move in a positive direction.

Six years later and it seems like yesterday. Images are still there but its getting better. I was in REAL bad shape after this happened and didn’t even realize it. I was avoiding the red meat section at the super market and seeing motorcycles made me extremely uneasy. Now I’m back to grilling steaks and living life. It’s been in the 60s this weekend and Tyler would have been loving it.

This is really the only time I have ever brought personal stuff onto this forum and you all helped out a ton. Thank you.
 
I’m sure Tyler is watching over you and having a few chuckles. Seems that you guys had a lot of great times. It’s very hard loosing such a great friend. Im glad your getting your life back on track. Good luck to you. Kim
 
I’m sure Tyler is watching over you and having a few chuckles. Seems that you guys had a lot of great times. It’s very hard loosing such a great friend. Im glad your getting your life back on track. Good luck to you. Kim

I remember this thread, sad deal for you and him...glad you are doing better and remember the good times. This is a great site with many good people, any time you need to vent or open up about stuff it’s cool, we are like a family here.
 
I’m sure Tyler is watching over you and having a few chuckles. Seems that you guys had a lot of great times. It’s very hard loosing such a great friend. Im glad your getting your life back on track. Good luck to you. Kim

Maybe I am too much of a realist but I don’t suspect he is looking down.
 
In your heart always! I think that’s why we are given the gift of memory, to keep someone you love with you as long as you live. I hope you tap into Tyler’s memory often, and give a smile now and again when you think of him through things you do in life. And I hope that your heart can be at peace someday, in terms that you can live with. Peace be with you, brother.
 
I lost a good friend from HS and all these decades that followed. He was a car guy, a GM guy, but... He passed this last Fri and I was told Sat. Easter day, Sun. my brain ran so many of our experiences together thru my head. I felt weird all day. I had dreams all night of our time (many years as friends) together. Today, Mon. I feel, well it is very hard to explain, but I feel like just being me today, I feel very much OK, I feel like he has passed on into the ????????. Maybe today I just feel the reality that he has passed I am still here living and life's circle has made it loop once again? I feel a calm and quiet that is so different than yesterday. I understand he is gone, and I am OK with it. I will miss the fact he is no longer here though. I still have good memories.
 
I lost a good friend from HS and all these decades that followed. He was a car guy, a GM guy, but... He passed this last Fri and I was told Sat. Easter day, Sun. my brain ran so many of our experiences together thru my head. I felt weird all day. I had dreams all night of our time (many years as friends) together. Today, Mon. I feel, well it is very hard to explain, but I feel like just being me today, I feel very much OK, I feel like he has passed on into the ????????. Maybe today I just feel the reality that he has passed I am still here living and life's circle has made it loop once again? I feel a calm and quiet that is so different than yesterday. I understand he is gone, and I am OK with it. I will miss the fact he is no longer here though. I still have good memories.

It’s a tough pill to swallow. It takes me a while to realize that they aren’t going to be around ever again. A few weeks ago they closed down all the off-road parks around me and I remember thinking how bummed Tyler would have been. Little stuff like that still gets to me.
 
Sorry for your loss, praying for everyone affected.
Take solitude in your faith, let it be your stronghold. Think of the good times and the good things of the young man, not the tragedy that took him, that can bring a smile to you.
We cant always understand the whys, know that there was a bigger plan for him.
Again my deepest condolences to you and his family!
 
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