WHY DO WE UPGRADE OUR SUSPENSION

I've always been one to go a little bit bigger on the sway bars but not so much on the T-bars and also not to stiff on the shocks. This usually makes the car still ride decently while getting better handling characteristics. I'm I doing something wrong? Never did like my everyday drivers riding like a 3/4 ton truck.....
Not doing anything wrong. It can be a matter of preference as long as you know what your options are. This philosophy has been shared by many. The combination of t bar and sway bar = Roll Couple. However, even cars with heavier bars (like mine) don't ride like trucks. I see lots of people overspring the rear. This degrades the ride quite a bit.