fun with alzheimers

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diymirage

diymirage

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doesnt happen very often, so i thought id share
(back story)
my mother in law lives with us, and has alzheimers
not too bad yet, but notable and it comes with its own set of struggles one of which is she call us, all the time. even when we're home in a different room
she just doesnt remember


(actual story)
so me and the wife are hanging around the house and for some reason i got lonestar's "allready there" stuck in my head

so, i start singing it right?
i come to this line, "a little voice came on the phone, said daddy, when are you coming home? and i said the first thing that came to my mind....im allready there"

then the wife hollers out LIAR (because obviously, hes not there, hes a thousand miles away)

so i say, well, maybe its his mother in law calling and he really is there?

long story short, "allready there" is now my mother in laws ringtone on my phone
 
I used to tease my mom with Alzheimer’s when it was close to Easter. I’d tell her “ Mom, it’s your favorite time of year, Easter, you can hide your own Easter eggs” To which she would reply “Oh that’s nice son”. She succumbed to this horrible disease in 2014 RIP Mom.
 
SGBARRACUDA said:
I used to tease my mom with Alzheimer’s when it was close to Easter. I’d tell her “ Mom, it’s your favorite time of year, Easter, you can hide your own Easter eggs” To which she would reply “Oh that’s nice son”. She succumbed to this horrible disease in 2014 RIP Mom.
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It's a horrible disease not just for the patient but the whole family. The patient eventually becomes bed bound and doesn't know anyone except for the good days which get less and less. The family is torn with decisions and feel guilty because they don't think they had done enough for their loved one. Nobody should have to go through that. Same as Dementia. It travels the same pathway of destruction.
My mother had Dementia and thank goodness Pneumonia took her before she didn't know us.
 
My wife is terrified she is gonna have it, because it's on both sides of her family. It's a horrible disease that I think (just my opinion only) that it is worse than cancer. :(
 
JDMopar said:
My wife is terrified she is gonna have it, because it's on both sides of her family. It's a horrible disease that I think (just my opinion only) that it is worse than cancer. :(
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At least they can try surgery/chemo/radiation with cancer to obliterate it (Hopefully). With Alzheimer's or Dementia there is no chance at all.
 
yeah, its usually not fun
she's been dealing with it for several years now, and the diagnosis was actually a blessing
(knowing she wasn't just obstinate and overbearing but really didn't know what was going on)

its been a real struggle at times
specially with the kids (she doesn't have the patience with them) and so when I saw a chance to laugh about it, I took it
 
diymirage said:
yeah, its usually not fun
she's been dealing with it for several years now, and the diagnosis was actually a blessing
(knowing she wasn't just obstinate and overbearing but really didn't know what was going on)

its been a real struggle at times
specially with the kids (she doesn't have the patience with them) and so when I saw a chance to laugh about it, I took it
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It sure is a struggle but sometimes you have to laugh. For her sake I hope the end is near.
 
Mark Wainwright said:
It's a horrible disease not just for the patient but the whole family. The patient eventually becomes bed bound and doesn't know anyone except for the good days which get less and less. The family is torn with decisions and feel guilty because they don't think they had done enough for their loved one. Nobody should have to go through that. Same as Dementia. It travels the same pathway of destruction.
My mother had Dementia and thank goodness Pneumonia took her before she didn't know us.
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I went thru this with both my mom and dad. Dad died in 2010 and mom in 2014. My mom died without having a single medical condition. For the last three years my mom did nothing or didn’t know me or anyone. My dad forgot how to swallow and was on a feeding tube for about 2 years. It is without a doubt the one of the hardest ways to die, especially on the surviving family.
 
Dealing with this with my Mom and my Step Dad right now,
some days its funny, some days its sad, my Mom doesn;t want to see him and
all he wants to do is go see her in the Home which has been locked down since
early March, they are driving me to drink, Rum is best but you don't remember with Tequila.
 
340mouse said:
Dealing with this with my Mom and my Step Dad right now,
some days its funny, some days its sad, my Mom doesn;t want to see him and
all he wants to do is go see her in the Home which has been locked down since
early March, they are driving me to drink, Rum is best but you don't remember with Tequila.
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You sure have you hands full at the moment. Hang in there and deal with it the best you can.
 
My mom at one time told me. You know son I’ve never been married. I asked well then where did I come from? Her reply, Well I was married, but that was years ago.
 
RPMagoo said:
-- It sure is. -- My wife has it, and at times, She doesn't know Me.
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So sorry RP That must be the hardest part when they don't recognize you. It is legal to have assisted suicide? Here in Canada (I believe it is) and I agree with it. Some Dr's won't do it understandably but it's the kindest act of all. If an animal is suffering you put it down so they don't suffer any more and we're animals ourselves sort of kind of.
I don't know if I'd have the guts to push that needle for myself but that depends how much I'm suffering I guess. What a tough subject.
 
Mark Wainwright said:
So sorry RP That must be the hardest part when they don't recognize you. It is legal to have assisted suicide? Here in Canada (I believe it is) and I agree with it. Some Dr's won't do it understandably but it's the kindest act of all. If an animal is suffering you put it down so they don't suffer any more and we're animals ourselves sort of kind of.
I don't know if I'd have the guts to push that needle for myself but that depends how much I'm suffering I guess. What a tough subject.
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That is the problem a demented person is not of sound mind to make that decision. You can’t and shouldn’t be able to do it for them. My mom and dad went thru it with my grandmother. And they always said they didn’t want to put me thru the hell that grandma put them. But they didn’t have enough of their wits to know that it was exactly what they did to me.
 
SGBARRACUDA said:
That is the problem a demented person is not of sound mind to make that decision. You can’t and shouldn’t be able to do it for them. My mom and dad went thru it with my grandmother. And they always said they didn’t want to put me thru the hell that grandma put them. But they didn’t have enough of their wits to know that it was exactly what they did to me.
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I don't know if a living will made way before they get bad would work. Is it legal in the U.S.?
 
Mark Wainwright said:
I don't know if a living will made way before they get bad would work. Is it legal in the U.S.?
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there are forces in the US that want to make murder legal, no matter how vulnerable the victim is
I dont believe it is legal to murder our elders yet but in the society we live in, it wouldn't surprise me
 
diymirage said:
there are forces in the US that want to make murder legal, no matter how vulnerable the victim is
I dont believe it is legal to murder our elders yet but in the society we live in, it wouldn't surprise me
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It's not murder if the patient pushes the needle DIY. Would you let your dog suffer in agony? I don't think so. And if this is what the patient wants so they don't suffer then what's the problem. The procedure should start with discussion with 2 dr.s, a psychiatrist and a lawyer to make sure the patient is still capable of making this decision or as mentioned earlier in a living will stating their wishes. It's all done with family around in a peaceful manner. Would being in unbelievable pain living out your final days which is inevitable praying to your God to take them be better? Not in my books.
 
Mark Wainwright said:
It's not murder if the patient pushes the needle DIY. Would you let your dog suffer in agony? I don't think so. And if this is what the patient wants so they don't suffer then what's the problem. The procedure should start with discussion with 2 dr.s, a psychiatrist and a lawyer to make sure the patient is still capable of making this decision or as mentioned earlier in a living will stating their wishes. It's all done with family around in a peaceful manner. Would being in unbelievable pain living out your final days which is inevitable praying to your God to take them be better? Not in my books.
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i dont think this is a discussion we will ever agree on, and you're argument that would lower my loved ones status to that of an animal doesnt really help

i will give you this, suicide isnt murder
but that doenst make it right either

we dont have the right to create live, we dont have the right to end life, it is that simple
 
I don’t have an issue with someone ending their own life if they have the mental capacity to make that decision. Alzheimer’s patients don’t.
 
SGBARRACUDA said:
I don’t have an issue with someone ending their own life if they have the mental capacity to make that decision. Alzheimer’s patients don’t.
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That's why you have to have all the person's wishes in order which will do the speaking for them when they can't.
 
Mark Wainwright said:
That's why you have to have all the person's wishes in order which will do the speaking for them when they can't.
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Most Horrible disease I've ever seen I feel and pray for all of you that are going through it now I went through it with my mom back in 2012 long story but I'm not gonna share it right now . I also agree about it being Worse than cancer. I've also told my wife multiple times if I ever get it to shoot me Because I really don't wanna put my family through that.Thanks mark and Roy for sharing.
Gary.
 
I watched my Mother and Father-in-law die from cancer both reeling in pain for months. Dad died from Alzheimer virtually pain free physically. He always wanted to go home and died in his own house that he built. Assisted suicide is legal in Oregon. We (Hospice) sedated Dad to the point that he coudnt drink or eat.
 
OK so this is supposed to be fun. Well I didn't find much fun in any of it but there was this one story that is a little more age related than it is Alzheimer's.
Dad had recently been put on Flomax. It helps you pee if you have prostate problems. He was peeing blood and was hallucinating. Ended up being a bladder infection.
While in the emergency room his blood pressure was low which is a side effect of Flomax. My step-mom was still at home as I had rushed him to the hospital. We were questioning the Flomax dosage so I texted Mom about it and my phone spell checked Flomax to Climax. YUP... I asked her if she gave him his Climax. LOL
 
My mother lasted about 5 years after being diagnosed although i think she had it much longer
I programmed a digital photo frame with all her family old & new even though she couldn't remember who we were she would look at the pictures & call out her families names same with music a lot tend to remember their favourite music
The strange thing was she had been in a full coma for 3 weeks before she passed right before her eyes opened & she called her sisters name out BUB we called her
it was good because it gave her sister & the family closure
 
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