I must step away from FABO for a while

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God bless you and lessen your pain so that it is bearable.All things are bearable with Jesus Christ.

Not religious? Everyone grieves differently.Only suggestion I have is do not let it consume you.If I sit in one place too long my thoughts and feelings can consume me.It is hard to see the light with a blanket pulled over your head.

I pray for your peace and well being.Seek out others who have been where you are.You do not have to go this alone.

George
 
Sad to hear of this.
My advice is to keep your chin up and you will beat this.
I lost both of my parents when I was a teenager and it was hard.
A good start is to keep yourself busy and/or exercise to keep your mind off of your troubles.
Take any and all help offered to you, and you WILL turn this around.
Please don't blame yourself for what has happened, and if you are, change your mindset and realize that it's not your fault. Sometimes things just happen and it sucks, but that's life.
I'm sure that your wife wouldn't have wanted you to live with fear, guilt, and unhappiness.
Take it one day at a time my friend, one day at a time..........
 
God bless you Mike...and this too will pass...you are going to have a hard task but you will come out a stronger man..I'm so sorry for your loss and if you need anything call me ..Will 803-552-6722...I lost my wife to drugs and she has been a zombie for 7 years..life gets better but you are gonna have to fall back in love with yourself...stay busy , at least try too...
 
Life is good, and life can be bad, but we must concentrate on the good and look forward to the future. There are many women out there that are in a similar situation who have lost their husbands and are morning their loss as well. They were groups out there that are wonderful to get involved with that consist of those who have recently lost loved ones. Being able to get out and talk about it and keep moving forward is the important thing. Ask me how I know. I still struggle with depression from time to time, but I can allow myself to spiral down or I can do things to prevent it and have people to call that I can tell anything to.
 
I really feel for you Mike. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I can’t begin to to imagine how you feel. The power of prayer is a wonderful thing. Keep putting 1 foot ahead of the other. We are here for you. We are all family no matter where we came from or ended up at. Kim
 
I'm very sorry for your loss and the tragedy!
I'm praying for your comfort and healing .
God bless
Jim
 
First let me say I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences. You well know, FABO people are family. We will do or best to help our family.

I wish I could be better at helping people in this type of time of need, but you know, what I do say, is with the best intentions.

You and I are not kids, we have seen alot but nothing is harder than losing your beloved wife of so many years, and then finding your self in a true and real deep depression. Like mentioned, exercise is such a good medicine for mind and body. No doubt your appetite has gone South (or maybe North), but good nutrition is part of healing.

What gives me strength are the wonderful memories I have of lost loved ones. Be it famly, friends, or beloved animals. No one can take that away.

I have relationship with My Heavenly Father. It heals. If you do not, might I suggest reach out. God does not put obstacles or hearthache in front of us, He gives us the strength to go on and deal with life. Nuff said.

Professional help sometimes is a must. We can not slways heal ourselves. After two wars my dad had a nervous breakdown, I was like 8 or 9. He healed. He had been though, lets just say, a lot. He had professional help. There is way better help today.

Please never, never hesitate to call me if you just need someone to talk to. I admit i am half deff but I will give you my fullest attention. Just message me for a number if needed.

God Bless.
 
I'm sorry for your loss! I understand if you need someone to talk to just to listen feel free to pm me! I wish you the best!
 
I'm sad to hear this, I know how bad severe depression can be, I had it once for no reason at all, when I was 16 years old, I had just got my drivers license and had a 68 charger and a 70 coronet I was working on and bam! For no reason at all it hit me, I didn't want to eat or even walk, I didn't drive for almost a year, it took me over a year to get over it, I found Christ during this period in my life and got better from that point on. My prayers go out to you, just hang in there we are all with you!
 
A long time go, I lost someone I had expected to marry, we had been dating for a long time and had discussed marriage many times. We were both trying to get our lives and careers on track first, when she was shot to death. I still feel cheated out of a life that could have been, but I will never know how it may have played out.

I am with a great woman now, and truly happy, but it took me a very long time to accept what happened and go on with my life. Just don't give up!
 
First of all I know you lost the one you care about most, and the one that cared about you most. That can't be replaced. But you should look at the posts before this one and realize there are a BUNCH of people that care about you. Next you should think about what she would want you to do. It will take a while to get your feet under you, but give yourself time. And don't turn your back on FABO. There are a lot of folks here who have a good view to help you through this ordeal. One day at a time, or maybe one hour at a time. We'll help you get through this. All the best, Wayne
 
Thank you all so very much!!!

You all have already made a difference.
I go in for blood work tomorrow.
I have a lot of pain in my ankles and knees and it is difficult to do anything when you cant walk due to pain.

Thanks again everybody and I will be back tomorrow.
 
Mike,
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine your pain and anguish.
If there's something, anything, a guy up in New York can do for you, please call on me.
All the best,
Todd
 
Hang in there Mike, it will get easier with time and will get better, you never really get over a loss like this but you can learn to live with it and I promise you, it will get easier. Maybe you can find a group to help deal with your feelings? After I lost my mom to suicide it was total hell, found a group to visit with and have been going for 5 years now and it really helped. It’s also ok to feel sad and get a good cry out, that does help. Remember the good memories, I’m sure she would want you to be happy and smile again. Prayers sent for you and don’t stay away from us for too long!
 
Mike,. You are in my prayers. Life is fragile, but, since you are still on this earth, you have something to offer somebody. Maybe it's something you say to the doctors office receptionist that brightens her day. Maybe it's a wave to a neighbor that needed to be recognized. I don't know, but I believe as long as we are here, we have something to offer humanity.

I'm over in Rome. Please reach out if I can be of any assistance.
 
Mike,
My thoughts and prayer are with you,
My wife was a widow when we met,
She never believed people when they told
her time will heal the heart, but when we talk about
our feelings and more.
She says time, friends and family helped her through
all the tough times. PM anytime you are in need.
 
Guys, I've met Mike in person a while back to pick up a 727 he was giving away. He is truly one of the nicest people you'd ever want to meet. He has a nice place, a nice garage, and a VERY nice Cuda that is almost done. I can see how what he has been through is causing him a lot of pain. Mike, I will also say a prayer for you the Lord to give you strength to overcome the sorrow of losing your wonderful wife. Sometimes we get so mired into grief that we completely forget to celebrate the life our loved one lived and shared with us. I'm not all that far away, and I would be more than happy to come spend a good day with you helping you work on your Cuda. I'd say that 2 old guys like us could still get a lot of work done in a day! Hang in there Mike!

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This is so sad. Prayers to you and your wife to rest in peace.
 
Mike, i had to stop and read this.
A friend/customer just lost his wife 10 days ago. I know he’s crushed. I havent lost anybody i was very close to,but very close friends have lost family members
Naturally and tragically. Each one
I try just to be a friend, an ear if needed. From what i read here you have many friends. Please dont hesitate to take them up on their offers.
My best friend lost his mother in the worst way imagineable, while most of his “friends” avoided him like the plague i was there for him. He’s like family, as was his mom.
He got through it,and i know it was tough.
Draw on your friend’s strength, when they offer it. Mentally and physically.
Im sorry for your loss,and healing is a long process. If all you have is good memories, make the best of them.

Frank
 
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