Respectfully request advice as newly divorced dad

Any debts that were incurred when you were a couple can be considered as joint debt, regardless of whether or not you are a co signor, meaning that you are ultimately going to be responsible for repayment of those debts. Been there too. Keep a record of all conversations, tape them if possible, that way there is no "he said, she said", only the recording. I agree with the idea of the state handling any monies paid to her for the same reason. Others have made very good points as well. You've been duped at least once thus far, you can be sure that it will happen again. I trusted my ex wife when we split up and I paid a heavy price before I was done with her.