Pancreatic cancer

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Father was diagnosed with it early last year. Chemo and radiation are hard on a body.
 
Mum was diagnosed mid November she passed end of January. 5 years now.
 
I am guilty.
But age has taught me the biggest piece of **** usually had some life changing horrible thing happen to them .
I can’t believe I’m saying it, but understanding goes a long way.
hes still a racist wife beater but who knows why?
 
Forgot about this. Jim came home the other day. Was not even out of the car and started on a 2 hour rant. He could not find his medication and accused Taylor of tossing it. He rummaged thru the trash, finding some less than overflowing bag from the kitchen. And laid into her for 20 minutes about it. Also found the meds....right on the counter, where he left them prior to going to the ER. No apology.
Ernie has not checked up on Taylor in a few days. Jim did call us yesterday, to tell me about a burn ban being instituted already. He sounded horrible.

My mom was a racist growing up. She was not feeling well, doc thought she had TB. Sent her for X-rays, the tech shot the wrong area of her lung some how....and found lung cancer. Excuse my language here...all I heard about was how that f*cking sand n&&ger (tech was from Pakistan) could not even do his job right....the fact that he saved her from possibly having to battle lung cancer was not important. Called her to tell her I was getting married to Ernie, she put the phone down and yelled to my father "he is marrying that f*cking Spic". So when he got rolling that one day about all the "damn (again, excuse the language) slimy *** wetbacks" being such a large problem in his country I just had to walk away from him.

I have already told Ernie that I am not getting involved in there disaster. Taylor has 2 sons, one of them is a drug addict/grifter, I believe he is actually doing time right now for stealing a gun and some $$ when he lived with Jim & Taylor. She has another son, Michael, he lives local. He is married to a very attractive, extremely sweet young lady who has 2 kids from a previous marriage.....who happens to be black. When Taylor asked about having the grand-kids come out, her son has 2 kids from a previous marriage. Jim went off...saying he does not want them (again, excuse my language) half breed mud kids in his house. Taylor...well she is "out there" a bit. She seriously alienated herself from Michael....Taylor was looking for a place to run to...and he told her under no circumstances will he let her in his house. The only other family she has just moved to Germany. Ernie and I had a very heated discussion about helping her out. Stress is a big trigger for me. Right now, thanks to the virus and not being able to see the Rep that needs to tune my Spinal Cord Stimulator I hurt...in some ways worse than normal. Pain is a serious stressor in my life right now. I don't need that racist asshat down here, aggravating me. I don't want to end up in prison for killing this idiot...
 
I am guilty.
But age has taught me the biggest piece of **** usually had some life changing horrible thing happen to them .
I can’t believe I’m saying it, but understanding goes a long way.
hes still a racist wife beater but who knows why?
This is true. Thing with Jim is he is very quiet about his past. About the only thing I know for sure about him is he was a logger and a truck driver.
Understanding does indeed go a long way. Often times, simply asking a question may get the answer someone needs.
When I transferred to Phoenix with the USPS I was dealing with an yet to be diagnosed mental health problem. I was...well....a bit rough around the edges. Very difficult to get along with. Had a select few folks I talked with, for no other reason then they seen me for who I am. Go to work one day, some woman in a business suit came out to the floor to get me. Hmmm...Followed her into a conference room...I was in the middle of the first of many EEO complaints filed about me...In the room with me was 3 EEO employees, the plant manager, my direct boss and her boss. Told me I was accused of creating a "hostile work environment" due to my obvious hatred towards "people of color". Hmmm....I ate lunch every day with this guy Reggie, who is a "person of color". If I was assigned to work with the one "Group Leader", Curtis....I spent a lot of time talking with him...he was also a "person of color". I demanded to know who had filed the complaint against me. They bought in 3 of my co-workers...all females...
These 3 ladies accused me of being the "Grand Wizard of the Phoenix Chapter of the KKK". My response...well...did not sit well with any one....I told them what I did outside the walls of the USPS was of no ones concern but mine. Went round and round with them, just saying the same thing. I asked for a brief break. Went and got Reggie, Curtis, and the 3 females that were "people of color". I had the EEO folks read the complaint to my 5 co-workers. All of them just laughed and said that if I was a racist then they must be white because I talked with all of them.
I finally had enough...and asked the 3 woman that filed the complaint against me if it ever occurred too them that I did not talk to them for the simple matter of I did not like them, nor did I trust them. Care to guess where I was again....6 months later?
"Racism"...interesting word. I often do see folks that are a racist. But I also see groups of folks who segregate themselves, whether by accident or on purpose only they know. Often times once they segregate themselves they then will either pull out the "race card" or claim that they are victims of racism.
 
Forgot about this. Jim came home the other day. Was not even out of the car and started on a 2 hour rant. He could not find his medication and accused Taylor of tossing it. He rummaged thru the trash, finding some less than overflowing bag from the kitchen. And laid into her for 20 minutes about it. Also found the meds....right on the counter, where he left them prior to going to the ER. No apology.
Ernie has not checked up on Taylor in a few days. Jim did call us yesterday, to tell me about a burn ban being instituted already. He sounded horrible.

My mom was a racist growing up. She was not feeling well, doc thought she had TB. Sent her for X-rays, the tech shot the wrong area of her lung some how....and found lung cancer. Excuse my language here...all I heard about was how that f*cking sand n&&ger (tech was from Pakistan) could not even do his job right....the fact that he saved her from possibly having to battle lung cancer was not important. Called her to tell her I was getting married to Ernie, she put the phone down and yelled to my father "he is marrying that f*cking Spic". So when he got rolling that one day about all the "damn (again, excuse the language) slimy *** wetbacks" being such a large problem in his country I just had to walk away from him.

I have already told Ernie that I am not getting involved in there disaster. Taylor has 2 sons, one of them is a drug addict/grifter, I believe he is actually doing time right now for stealing a gun and some $$ when he lived with Jim & Taylor. She has another son, Michael, he lives local. He is married to a very attractive, extremely sweet young lady who has 2 kids from a previous marriage.....who happens to be black. When Taylor asked about having the grand-kids come out, her son has 2 kids from a previous marriage. Jim went off...saying he does not want them (again, excuse my language) half breed mud kids in his house. Taylor...well she is "out there" a bit. She seriously alienated herself from Michael....Taylor was looking for a place to run to...and he told her under no circumstances will he let her in his house. The only other family she has just moved to Germany. Ernie and I had a very heated discussion about helping her out. Stress is a big trigger for me. Right now, thanks to the virus and not being able to see the Rep that needs to tune my Spinal Cord Stimulator I hurt...in some ways worse than normal. Pain is a serious stressor in my life right now. I don't need that racist asshat down here, aggravating me. I don't want to end up in prison for killing this idiot...
You're a good man Doug. And the fact that you and Ernie had a heated discussion only points to the ethical dilemas you (plural) are faced with.
:thumbsup:
 
Who here has any experience with Pancreatic Cancer?
It's a ***** - lost a high school friend to it a couple of years ago.
80% die in the first year
Pretty much 100% by the fifth year - she made it into the fourth year, but I'm not sure it was worth the last few months :-(
 
Well....neighbor had several rounds of chemo...may have been radiation (?). He recently had surgery. By the sounds of the surgery was a real *****...from what I understood they had to "disembowel" him. I need to go down and hang out with him some time soon...I will not be able to live with myself otherwise. Yes, he is a wife beating, drunk racist. But he is still a human being whose days are apparently short. His wife said that the surgery took care of the tumor...unfortunately the cancer has spread. Ernie has seen him post surgery, said he looks horrible. He is a small man, guessing about 5'5" or so. From what his wife said he weighed about 150 prior to all this crap starting, he is now about 120.
 
Well....Jim has been in and out of the hospital multiple times since having the Whipple surgery done. Drain gets plugged, gets an infection and back to the hospital he goes. When he is home, despite what the Oncologist has told him about drinking he still is. When he is home it sounds like he is in the bathroom, with all sort of nasty things coming out of both ends.
He is 79 years old, which is 10 years older than what I thought.
Ernie has been helping out his wife, taking her grocery shopping and what not. They recently adopted a very energetic year old pup that they decided to "rehome".
From what I understand the surgery did get all of the tumor, but the caner has spread. Taylor is planning on Jim not being around much longer. He spent close to 90k on a fifth wheel about 5 years back, to go hunting. I think it has been used 4 times, Taylor is looking for the paper work on it so she can sell it. Asked Ernie if I knew of anyone that might want his truck.
Taylor has a ton of health issues, decided that all the meds she was taking for them were not helping so she stopped taking them. Past few nights she has called Ernie at 11:30 at night, damn near in a full on panic attack. Ernie convinced her today to start taking her meds again.
 
Ernie went down to Taylors today to help her clean...Taylor is really struggling to get around. Jim...well...has some sort of infection that requires the bandages to be changes every couple of hours. Taylor told Ernie that when they uncap the drains, same time as the bandage changes that fluid just runs out of the drains. Jim is having balance troubles, bowel control issues and has decided to not pursue anymore treatment....enough is enough. Ernie said Jim looks horrible. Taylor told Ernie that Jims life is now sitting on the sofa, drifting in & out of sleep. He will often fall when he stands up. Sounds like Taylor has decided to sell everything and move into an assisted living place, once Jim passes.
 
Racist alcoholic wife beater. Save the medicine and hospital bed for someone that deserves it. Wheres the karma emoji?

I would not wish that **** on Joe Biden. Well, yeh, for him, I'd make an exception.
 
Just saw this tread.
My best friends dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer last week.
His dad is a health nut. Nothing "un-pure" or non organic goes into his system. Man hasn't had red meat since the late 80's and no other meat since the mid 90's when he decided fish was "tainted".
Apparently he's been having issues for several months. My friend is taking him tomorrow to figure out what stage he's in. I'm no expert, but from what I know and saw, I don't think he'll last long.
The *** kicker is, his his sister is dealing with brain cancer. She's not long for the world either.
I got a feeling there is going to a couple of funerals in that family in the next couple months.
 
I have lost two friends, in the last two years to Pancreatic Cancer. Both were Slant Six racers. One had a different cancer that was being treated, before the pancreatic cancer was found. Neither friend lived more than six months after diagnosis.
 
while wifebeater and alcoholic are pretty black and blue, sorry, black and white, the racist part im leary about the racist moniker

i meet very few real racist nowadays, it seems most of the time the "racist" is someone who think illegal immigrants are criminals


Three thoughts... EDIT: four... went on a rant..

1. If I see things differently them someone, I'm could be called a racist these days... Not even close but hey, someone believes it so it must be true right?

2. I don't drink much, but my grand parents did. Major alcoholics. Some would say and I've actually had people tell me, that automatically makes me one... wtf?

3. I don't beat anyone who doesn't deserve it. What does that mean to you? I know folks, good folks who are plagued by "Ex's" who claim all sorts of things. it was mentioned she has mental health issues. How do you she is telling the truth?

4. I don't see how it's relevant what sort of person he is, or you think he his. Not even sure WHY it was mentioned other than to somehow use some social justice, virtue signalling so the op could feel better about his own negative feelings...

My step dad died of cancer in 6 weeks. My brother in laws brother held on for three years, my father has survived cancer twice. Don't wish that crap on anyone unless you're willing to go through it yourself...

Post is pretty effed up in my not so humble opinion.
 
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I would be careful what you wish on others. That has a strange way of coming back around.
 
my dad just past july 15th from pancreatic cancer he was having side and back pain in feb and in may 2020 was diagnosed with cancer, he lost 50lbs in 2 months, couldn't hardly walk, and was in a lot of pain, couldn't eat hardly anything because the pain would get worse when eating, couldn't even swallow water without it hurting,
he was a healthy hard working man ,worked until he was 70 then retired wanting to spend time with family and go camping, do car shows with grandkids and me, that all changed in 2 months,
this 2020 year has been real stressful for me and my family, not asking for a symphony or any pity parade .....but this is how this year has went so far,,

December2019 ... sister age 50 colon cancer , chemo done now and doing good

January 2020... brother age 52 died in sleeper of semi didn't feel well and didn't go to doctor to get checked out...

February 2020 dad age 74 pain in side and back CANCER pasted on july 15th

now my mom is having short term memory loss ,
I HOPE THINGS WILL BE BETTER IN 2021....
 
I watched a friend of mine go through this. He would work a few days a week, and the days he was not working for us he would do odd jobs or haul off our scrap metal for a few dollars, or whatever the loads paid. He got hurt doing this exact thing, he tried to load part of an old four post automotive lift on to his trailer, and he hurt his back. He went to the doctor, and while the doctor was running tests they discovered he had pancreatic cancer. He only lasted about 4 months. I miss James, he was a good friend. And I would not wish that disease on anyone, and I don't care who they are.
 
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