Bad News About An Old Friend...

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RustyRatRod

RustyRatRod

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Found out some bad news about an old friend today. He has stage 4 cirrhosis of the liver. Yes, it's alcohol induced. I always knew the guy was a drunk. Everybody who worked around him or knew him knew it. He's one of those guys though you just cannot help but like. One of the best parts men I've ever worked with. Known him over 35 years. They caint do anything for him. He's not a candidate for a transplant, because he's in bad health otherwise, from years of abuse affecting all other aspects of his body. Plus, he's had covid on top of it and he's not tested negative yet, he still has it. So he doesn't have a lot of time left. I ask prayers for him and his family. Although he's divorced, he has three children who I'm sure will miss him terribly. Please, no snotty alcoholic comments. We are all sinners and all have our demons. Thanks.
 
Amen if he was your good friend that’s good enough for me. I hope he doesn’t suffer thru the time he has left.
 
Sorry to hear this Rusty. Alcohol is a killer. Several of my friends didn't make it to 50 because of it. Loss even more friends after 50 because of it. Hell some of them didn't make it to 40. I was a raging alcoholic by the age of 16 and would be dead myself if I didn't stop drinking in 1987 with gods help.
 
Always room for more prayers RustyRR. Just to maybe help some others understand, Alcoholism can be a progressive disease. Starts out all fun and games on your 21st birthday. Next thing ya know you are 50 years old and your liver is shot.
 
Prayers definitely. I lost a couple of high school friends in 2018. One guy had COPD and the other a massive heart attack in the shower. Had no idea the second guy was having problems and I had seen him just a couple of weeks before he passed. It's tough and there are no good words. That's one of the reasons that, when I was asked, I produced tribute slide show videos for both of them. I speak better that way...
 
I know sometimes I post about drinkin like a fish but I really don't. I go through phases. I've had beer go bad in the fridge. It's something thank GOD that I've never had to have. So I told Kitty after I heard about my friend, since I can take advantage of not having a drink, I'm going to. I'm not havin anymore. I know my liver is still 100% because all my blood work numbers from my doctor say so. So I'm quittin while I'm ahead. I have a beautiful wife, a son and two beautiful nieces and other cherished family I want to be here for, so that's it for me. Besides, I hadn't had but one beer since December 1st anyway. So piss on it.
 
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"Piss on it".
My mom used to say that. She was born in Tennessee. She'd also say other southern things that we kids (Growing up in California) did NOT understand. Dad would say "Dummy up" when he wanted silence. That made zero sense to kids as well.
 
Sorry to hear this Rusty. I think most of us have at least one friend with that problem. I myself use to drink a lot, but lucky for me, somewhere along the line, I just lost the desire. I'll still have a beer or mixed drink occasionally, but not very often. Usually just socially.
 
Sorry to hear this RRR. Alcohol can definitely take a toll on you. Working on quitting completely here, too.
 
Prayers for your buddy, Rusty. Alcohol has taken too many of my family and some friends. I haven't touched it for almost ten years because of this.
 
Some very good people make some very bad choices. Who are we to judge, we have not spent 10 seconds in their shoes? Prayers for your friend.
 
Strength and positive thoughts. Like was mentioned above, partying at a young age is all fun and games...for awhile, then it's an addiction and just sad.
 
Sad to hear. Condolences to all affected by this.

My wife lost her brother a couple of years ago from liver disease. Years of drinking and drug abuse along with hepatitis C ended up in cancer that destroyed his liver. Although he did eventually get a liver transplant and a second lease on life, he went back to his old ways and wrecked his kidneys in a few short months and ended up having 2 heart attacks...the second one ended his life.

Demons of the soul are hard to shake, and only those that face them can overcome them.

We can only forgive them and support those they leave behind...judgement is up to God.
 
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I am in stage 2, still compensated. Not eligible for a transplant. I drank a lot, but the cirrhosis was caused by AIH doctors say. But even in stage 4, a transplant could save him if he could survive the surgery.
 
DodgeLad said:
I am in stage 2, still compensated. Not eligible for a transplant. I drank a lot, but the cirrhosis was caused by AIH doctors say. But even in stage 4, a transplant could save him if he could survive the surgery.
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Or if he could get one. The waiting list is long and only the most critical cases get a shot..and a slim one at that. It took my BIL 2 Years at the top of the list to get one and he only got it by not dying before one came available.

Even then, he had one come up that he went under the knife to get and complications during surgery forced them to abandon the attempt and give it to someone else. He woke up thinking he got it only to be told that it didn’t happen. It took another 6 months before he finally got one.

The shame of it all was that after his heart attack, all his organs were damaged and not suitable for transplant to others. In the end, he couldn’t even give back the gift he was given.

Only God can reconcile that and only by his own wisdom have it make sense. I can’t.
 
PLUS, he has covid and other health issues, not to mention I very seriously doubt he will agree to change his ways, even looking death in the face. That last one would knock him pretty much off the transplant list, not to mention the rest.
 
I had a firefighter co worker and friend that succumbed to drinking. Only 50 years old. Doctor told him the beginning of 2011 that if he didn’t stop drinking he was going to die. He quit for about a month. Then started sneaking Vodka in his cola. Well he died that August. Towards the end he was as yellow as the do not pass yellow stripe is on the road.
 
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