sounds like you need to make some trips and experience some of these places for yourself.. people have been flocking to tenn,ga,fla and the carolinas for years. while they may still have open space they are building up like mad. gotta be able to look into the future some too and judge what it will be in 10-20 years. being in your 30's you need to find a place that actually has jobs or those stresses will be as bad or worse..
