Pulling my hair out

It tends to tighten the extension of the shock. The higher I go the less it drives the tire down at the hit. If it’s set low at 5 it will drive the wheel into the asphalt which causes the tire to bounce back which then bounces the whole rear end of the car. The axle doesn’t really move down much in the video where the shock is set at 9.
What rear spring are you using?