head milling

If this is a fresh build, why not leave the heads and intake alone and just use other pistons.
Just spit balling

Heads always "warp" a bit so while you are milling them flat again, I just would go the whole .020. Then mill the intake side .019 to keep the head surfaces in the right relationship to each other. You only have to do this once as they don't "move" much after all those years and thermal cycles. I never mill an intake manifold, unless it is out of spec. I still have High Performance blocks from 273's, a 318 Magnum, and 340's that will clean up with a hone, so I will reuse the pistons in those blocks. Those engines are not compression challenged, so I do not feel the need to add the extra expense of boring and pistons. I assume the OP is keeping his short block as is or is just freshening up the motor.