Think about this

Do as you see fit but consider this
If your getting up in age, maybe having health issues or maybe still in great shape especially if you live alone or if you have a good friend who lives alone, maybe a relative, call them once a day or have a good idea someone who knows you, calls them once a day even for a couple of minutes
Nice idea if someone calls you as well
You need not agree with me but think about what im going to tell you all
Im going to a wake today and funeral tomorrow. My daughter in laws mother, 64 yrs old, no serious healthy issues..... Not a out going person, bit of a recluse and difficult
My DIL doesn't speak to her everyday, she talks to her a few times a week
I do know my DIL works long hours and has two big dogs and three wild Indian's running around at home, so who calls who? I have no idea
Sunday night I got a panic call from my son to get over there asap
Nobody had heard from his MIL and calls made it apparent nobody else did as well
My DIL travled the 45 minutes to get to her moms house, my son had to stay home with kids until I got there
My DIL found her mom dead on the kitchen. floor
Looks like she tripped or fell, hit her face on floor and bleed out.
Its thought now she died Wednesday or so and she was found Sunday evening
Not a pleasant site and having found my own mother dead its nothing I wish on anyone
This woman would have passed either way but maybe she didnt have to lie on a cold kitchen floor for four days and maybe my DIL wouldn't have to have to see her mom like that
Sucks all the way around
I have a good buddy who is partially disabled, he goes out as much as possible and I as well as few others do talk to him daily.
I call him even when I dont want to....I know if he falls he most likely won't be able to get up
It was thirteen years ago,,,,I was working 12 hours on a Saturday, got home in time for a birthday party.....I didnt call my mom that day, talked to her the night before
After everyone started to go home I called mom, busy signal for over a hour....Who the F is she talking to at this time for this long? Operator said phone is off the hook.....My son in law drove me over there......her apartment was dark and the shades were still open....
I carried guilt for months, I learned months later she was heard from around 4 or 5...
She had a bad heart and she collapsed on to her couch looks like she was trying to call someone......She was dead for about maybe 4/5 hours so it was just her time but I still wish I could have spoken to her one last time that day
Just wanted to share this with some of you
have a good day

Sorry Steve.
Life is hard ... for everyone.
We are still learning.
Thanks for sharing.

Thanks for sharing, Steve. We see it all the time in my line of work - people dying alone who may or may not have had a chance if someone was there to help.

Sorry for your loss. I suppose most of us know a similar story. I knew a older guy who seemed and thought he was good to good. Had his Harley ready for a road trip and sitting out in the driveway. He locked his doors, showered and such, came out of his bathroom in nothing but a towel, and fell dead across his bed. It was 4 days before a neighbor decided something just isn't right over there. He made some phone calls. The Harley riders son was on the lake fishing, so sent his girlfriend over there to break a window and crawl in. She said the odor in the house was horrible, and unforgettable.
To go out of this life like a light bulb is a blessing to the one and can be a horrible tragedy to others.

You have our deepest sympathy. That's just awful. I'm always telling Kitty "God forbid something happens to us, nobody will find us for weeks" and it's true. I have a sister in Macon. 30 minutes away. Just saw her yesterday for Thanksgiving. But if I don't call her, it'll be six months before I hear from her......maybe more. And God help them if they ever had to ride out HERE. I'd never hear the end of it. But she makes close to six figures a year as a nurse practitioner and he's a Golden Flake cookie guy. Kitty and I on social security, barely getting by. We made the trip yesterday there, because my sister wanted it THERE and here we are, 1/4 tank of gas left in Kitty's car and 16 dollars in the bank till next Friday. LOL

But as I said, nobody and I mean NOBODY ever comes by, calls, or anything.......well......I take that back. Someone from THIS VERY FORUM calls more than my own family. @Stephen Hotz. I actually hear from him a good little bit. Then, Del (@67Dart273) calls some too, but they both call more than family or friends that live less than 50 miles away.

We live 500 feet off the road for a good reason, but we'd never mind visits from friends.....but never get any. I tell Kitty we're the biggest assholes in the world must be all the time. I guess we are. LOL

RustyRatRod said:

You have our deepest sympathy. That's just awful. I'm always telling Kitty "God forbid something happens to us, nobody will find us foe weeks" and it's true. I have a sister in Macon. 30 minutes away. Just saw her yesterday for Thanksgiving. But if I don't call her, it'll be six months before I hear from her......maybe more. And God help them if they ever had to ride out HERE. I'd never hear the end of it. But she makes close to six figures a year as a nurse practitioner and he's a Golden Flake cookie guy. Kitty and I on social security, barely getting by. We made the trip yesterday there, because my sister wanted it THERE and here we are, 1/4 tank of gas left in Kitty's car and 16 dollars in the bank till next Friday. LOL

But as I said, nobody and I mean NOBODY ever comes by, calls, or anything.......well......I take that back. Someone from THIS VERY FORUM calls more than my own family. @Stephen Hotz. I actually hear from him a good little bit. Then, Del (@67Dart273) calls some too, but they both call more than family or friends that live less than 50 miles away.

We live 500 feet off the road for a good reason, but we'd never mind visits from friends.....but never get any. I tell Kitty we're the biggest assholes in the world must be all the time. I guess we are. LOL

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Your not a A-hole Rusty and you, me or we cant help people who think only of themselves.....My wife's sister and your sister in law sound alike...My wife has been to hell and back, chemo, so many surgeries I lost count and her sister would be down this way once a month to visit mom and would never stop by for 15 minutes to visit my wife, forget about a phone call, im talking ten years now,,,always all about her
Kitty you me, my wife could talk about this over coffee for hours but whats the sense.
You and I may not agree about a lot of **** but damm it I wish I lived nearby you
Tell the missus I have a Kitty also, only ten but that kid puts smile on my face every time I see her
Be well and thanks

I agree in principle, but there is only so much you can do, and sometimes, there would have been nothing you could have done

My old engineering buddy died in his late sixties, due to complications of heart and diabetes. I had flown down to see him maybe a couple years before he died (he was in Austin, TX) and because of the "free" cellular long distance, we had been calling each other 1--2 times a week in the evening, and BS'ing about all the great stuff we had done.

Until one night there was just no answer. We kinda knew each other's habits, and there was no reason he either would not be home, or had just "run to the store," etc.

And HE HAD a casual female friend a couple houses away, down on the corner. So she kept track of him as well. He had died in his sleep and she found him I guess about a day --day and a half later

Steve welder said:

Your not a A-hole Rusty and you, me or we cant help people who think only of themselves.....My wife's sister and your sister in law sound alike...My wife has been to hell and back, chemo, so many surgeries I lost count and her sister would be down this way once a month to visit mom and would never stop by for 15 minutes to visit my wife, forget about a phone call, im talking ten years now,,,always all about her
Kitty you me, my wife could talk about this over coffee for hours but whats the sense.
You and I may not agree about a lot of **** but damm it I wish I lived nearby you
Tell the missus I have a Kitty also, only ten but that kid puts smile on my face every time I see her
Be well and thanks

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If we agreed on everything, what a boring place this would be! lol

I'm 68, in excellent health (praise unowho), and don't have a phone. I still have 12 years left in the Promise, so maybe I'll get a phone when I approach 80.
I'm not a recluse but not interested hearing the same old stories from friends or relatives, nor retelling mine. For me, the past is history, I don't need to go there. I am charging into my future.
I unplugged my TV umteen years ago, and the stereo the following year. If you come to my house, the conversation will quickly turn to Bible-study. If you don't like it, don't come. I'm OK with that.
Death can be ugly, dying can be uglier.
From what I have seen, when my kind dies, one day he just quits breathing, or his heart just stops, which is how I expect myself to go to be with my ancestors. Don't think we have any say in it? Well believe what you want then..... and I will believe what I have read in the Book with the red-letters in it.

RustyRatRod said:

You have our deepest sympathy. That's just awful. I'm always telling Kitty "God forbid something happens to us, nobody will find us foe weeks" and it's true. I have a sister in Macon. 30 minutes away. Just saw her yesterday for Thanksgiving. But if I don't call her, it'll be six months before I hear from her......maybe more. And God help them if they ever had to ride out HERE. I'd never hear the end of it. But she makes close to six figures a year as a nurse practitioner and he's a Golden Flake cookie guy. Kitty and I on social security, barely getting by. We made the trip yesterday there, because my sister wanted it THERE and here we are, 1/4 tank of gas left in Kitty's car and 16 dollars in the bank till next Friday. LOL

But as I said, nobody and I mean NOBODY ever comes by, calls, or anything.......well......I take that back. Someone from THIS VERY FORUM calls more than my own family. @Stephen Hotz. I actually hear from him a good little bit. Then, Del (@67Dart273) calls some too, but they both call more than family or friends that live less than 50 miles away.

We live 500 feet off the road for a good reason, but we'd never mind visits from friends.....but never get any. I tell Kitty we're the biggest assholes in the world must be all the time. I guess we are. LOL

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Yeah, there are a couple forum members who call me from time to time and I truly enjoy talking with them. We just BS about cars, health, etc... Hears what slapped me yesterday morning... Thanksgiving 2019, corona virus hadn't hit here yet. We had forgotten cranberry sauce (we dont eat it). Bro-in-law and I went to local Ingles store to get nothing but. There is Missy, Perry's wife ( she works there watching the self check isles) and I said, "Dang sweet heart, Is someone cooking Perry a Thanksgiving dinner?" She says Perry is in the hospital. He had a heart attack, triple bypass surgery, then a couple of small strokes after all that. When I got home, I knew what I was thankful for and I told entire family how lucky and blessed we should feel.
I talked with Perry a few weeks later and he was doing good, planning to go back to work.
The corona virus killed the following 2020 Thanksgiving. I can't even do the family thing.
So this year I get everything ready for a real Thanksgiving including my shower and shave, and during that, the thought occurred, "Call Perrys number". I dialed to hear "disconnected or no longer in service".
So moral to this story is... some of us don't reach out to old friends often enough. A New Years resolution? Think about it.

Wow! That's fits my mother to a tee!
Lives alone with no neighbors and she won't carry her phone with her. She doesn't answer it half the time anyway.
She is 84 years old and she set up an extension ladder and got up on top of her barn roof to clean it off last year.
I blew up but she just laughs it off. I don't even have a key to her house and I'm her only child now.
So now my fear is someday I'll have to break into her house to find her lying there in the basement after she has fallen down the steps.

Sorry for your Family's loss. A close friend of mine passed the same way, in the kitchen, hit his head on the sink. He was having dizzy spells, and actually fainted while I was changing his oil, fell backwards on the concrete driveway, his head hit the empty 5 qt oil jug. I hung out for a few days, but eventually, it was time to go home. Never saw him again. He flat out refused to see a Dr., was afraid his cancer was returning

I call my parents Daily! More than one trip has been made (15 minutes) to do a wellness check. It's how I roll......

JW

AJ/FormS said:

I'm 68, in excellent health (praise unowho), and don't have a phone. I still have 12 years left in the Promise, so maybe I'll get a phone when I approach 80.
I'm not a recluse but not interested hearing the same old stories from friends or relatives, nor retelling mine. For me, the past is history, I don't need to go there. I am charging into my future.
I unplugged my TV umteen years ago, and the stereo the following year. If you come to my house, the conversation will quickly turn to Bible-study. If you don't like it, don't come. I'm OK with that.
Death can be ugly, dying can be uglier.
From what I have seen, when my kind dies, one day he just quits breathing, or his heart just stops, which is how I expect myself to go to be with my ancestors. Don't think we have any say in it? Well believe what you want then..... and I will believe what I have read in the Book with the red-letters in it.

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What was the purpose of this post? To help comfort the OP? All I see all the way through is I, me, I, me.........just an observation.