Starter stays engaged ONLY in park???

Okay, gotcha. I know the connector you're referring to. My comment about the NSS was in reference to jos51700's situation.

Here are the wires labeled. Whoever painted the damn car obviously didn't pay any attention to detail at all.
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Funny you ask about the diagram, my service manuals just arrived in the mail this afternoon!! So, yes. That'll be my homework for tonight. I really appreciate the help, I didn't grow up working on cars so a lot of the basic stuff is new to me.