questions about battery disconnect wiring

Let me try to clarify what I meant.
Illustrated below applies a relay as 273 suggested to a car where an in-line ammeter is being used.
Much of the wiring is same as factory. Alternator output wire is factory (black either 12 or 10 ga).
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Below is way to do the same thing, but with a solenoid in the starter cable.
The 8 gage battery feed is protected by the 12 ga fusible link.
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In both the relay is only carrying current to the ignition and alternator's rotor.
That could be as low as 3 amps or as maybe as much as 7 or 8 amps with a later model alternator and/or an ignition like MSD's that can draw 1 amp per 1000 rpm. (That's from MSD's instruction booklet, I've not tested it).
The point is that max through a relay used this way is much much less than the maximum current of a relay in the alternator's output wire.