I've been following the conversation and haven't seen the suggestion of talking to the original owner and seeing if they would we willing to take a small fee for taking back and relisting the car. I think a reasonable person could understand your dilemma and would give most of your money back. I know I would.
That is of course, you really want this car and are willing to pay and jump through the hoops. Which I also understand. I'm in SoCal and would try and help in anyway I can but it is pretty far from us.
Good Luck.
