“Best” all around axle ratio: ~450hp w/ A904?

And as a side note when I drag raced it I didn't see any significant gain going from 355 to 410...

You should have been in a completely different gear with that big of a change. I.e. with 4.56 I was trapping at 5,200 in OD (GVOD) and with 4.10 I trap at 6,200 in 3rd gear with a 727.

I'm unsure what you think a significant gain is, but if you went from 4.10 to 3.55 with no change in trap gear, trap RPM or 60 ft time it is a little beyond my understanding.