leaky heads gaskets, I'm losing it!

Lightly coat the threads with wd40 then wiping the bolts with a paper towel. Just so the threads are shiny. I made that mistake years ago with 2 much oil.
WD40 is a poor lubricant at best, it works well for getting bubble gum out of hair and that's about it. The factory service manuals will tell you to use SAE 30wt engine oil. Many apply ARP thread lube to the threads and the under side of the bolt head or nut. Improper torque may be part of your issue but I would lean more toward a mismatch of intake gaskets.
Good luck, keep posting